Fresh off an argument with my mother- do you think you have more on your plate than your mum did? I can't decide whether I am indeed busier (mum was a full time worker and single mum) or she's just forgotten what it's like.
So I was just wondering that in general do you think parents are expected to do a lot more these days? I feel like I have more obligations than my mum did, but I also wonder how many of those are self-imposed.
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15-12-2015 21:35 #1
Do you think you are busier than your mum was?
15-12-2015 21:39 #2
I am without any doubt. To be fair I have double the amount of kids and 4 of them with extra needs.
15-12-2015 21:42 #3Senior Member
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I have three kids but don't know if the number of children necessarily equates to being busier, plus I have farm stuff but I don't work outside the home (this may change next year)
Mum always says that she could never do what I do but I think that's rubbish.
15-12-2015 21:44 #4
I often wonder this. I think she was busier
15-12-2015 21:50 #5
No I don't think so... I'm a part time working single mother of two but my mum was a married mother of 4 with a husband who was useless and never present.
We played heaps of sports and she sewed our clothes. Her housekeeping skills weren't as good as mine but I'd say that's due to us kids making mess!! She started working when we were in school and we rode to and from school so I guess she didn't have pick ups/drop offs but then my DS1 catches a bus to and from school on the days I don't work so I don't either!
The only thing I do more of that she didn't is listen to, encourage and spend time with my kids. My siblings and I just played with each other and my mum never really 'knew' me. She got cross quite quickly and I was a clutz so often in trouble for breaking/spilling/ruining things. DS2 is just the same as me and I never scold him... Every day he manages to do something clutzy but I speak to him about or just get him to help me clean the mess... I felt pretty useless as a kid.
But busy wise... I'd say my mum had it worse. I've only got two kids and they play sport but I find it quite easy parenting them. We have a pretty relaxed life.
15-12-2015 21:50 #6
I think mum was busier. She had 2 kids to my one, plus she helped dad with the business and she also did a lot of running around for my nan. But, I think I have less flexibility given my full time work arrangements.
15-12-2015 21:53 #7
I'm busier at this point than my mum was. When my brother and I were my kids age my mum was a SAHM. Dad worked full time.
At this point I've also got 2 children but I also work part time, plus I'm also a landlord and property developer on the side which is more 'extra' work that my mum didn't have on.
Having said that, I have it easier. I couldn't be a full time SAHM. I'm a much better mother and person when I can work 3 days a week and having my other responsibilities on the side is my hobby/interest which also keeps me sane..... Well more same than I would be if I had to stay at home 7 days a week.
15-12-2015 21:53 #8
My mum was definitely busier. Single mum, 4 kids and worked full time.
15-12-2015 22:03 #9
I think My mum was busier than i am.
She had 2 kids worked as a teacher during school hours then worked alongside my dad in their newsagency before school and on weekends.
I have 3 kids but currently not working & when i do find work it will only be part time
15-12-2015 22:24 #10
Oòoh good question. My mum loves to tell me how easy us mums have it these days.... it was SOOOOOO much harder in her day, apparently. I dont know that I am any less busy, but maybe just a different kind of busy.
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