I'd love some advice on what you think about a family situation/ what you would do in this situation. It's a but of a long one, so thanks in advance to anyone who gets through it and has any advice to offer! I'll try to keep it clear cut, but please let me know if you need more info. Please don't quote, as I'll probably delete later.
Ideas, thoughts, comments, please??
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14-12-2015 18:59 #1
WWYD / WDYT - family situation
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14-12-2015 19:05 #2
Thoughts? I feel really sorry for your parents in law. It sounds like they've been taken for granted and exploited, and fists in front of faces?? That's so aggressive that I'd be worried about it stepping into elder abuse in the future.
I wouldn't call and 'blow up' at your BIL and his wife but I would be expecting DH (its his brother?) to at least tell his brother that their treatment of the parents is pretty shabby and its not right.
14-12-2015 19:13 #3
Selfish bil and sil and very ungrateful for the help they are receiving they should be more considerate
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14-12-2015 19:17 #4
WWYD / WDYT - family situation
My thoughts are that you and your DH should stay out of it. It is not your fight. That is between the inlaws and their son/DIL to sort it out themselves.
(I don't mean for this to sound harsh, it's hard to convey tone on the web)
14-12-2015 19:20 #5
No advice but that's horrible!!! Maybe when they don't have anyone to look after the kids they will realise how much the grandparents do for them.
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14-12-2015 19:25 #6
14-12-2015 19:27 #7
My first thoughts is to stay out of it too. It's really something your inlaws need to sort out with your BIL.
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14-12-2015 19:36 #8
Sounds like the beginnings of elder abuse.
14-12-2015 19:43 #9Senior Member
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I so empathise because we have some similar stuff going on and we did try and intervene on the inlaws behalf and it didn't go well (to put it mildly). My advice would be to just be there as much as you can for your inlaws and encourage them to put in place some strict boundaries but other than that, you just have to watch (sad as it is).
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14-12-2015 19:52 #10
@misskittyfantastico I'm so sorry you weren't able to help your in laws. I suspect that any attempts to speak with my BIL would go badly... because everything we say is a criticism apparently. So much so that stopping their kids from doing something potentially dangerous gets us in trouble. We've had some conversations about boundaries, and will no doubt do so again soon.
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