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    Default WWYD / WDYT - family situation

    I'd love some advice on what you think about a family situation/ what you would do in this situation. It's a but of a long one, so thanks in advance to anyone who gets through it and has any advice to offer! I'll try to keep it clear cut, but please let me know if you need more info. Please don't quote, as I'll probably delete later.

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    Ideas, thoughts, comments, please??

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    Thoughts? I feel really sorry for your parents in law. It sounds like they've been taken for granted and exploited, and fists in front of faces?? That's so aggressive that I'd be worried about it stepping into elder abuse in the future.

    I wouldn't call and 'blow up' at your BIL and his wife but I would be expecting DH (its his brother?) to at least tell his brother that their treatment of the parents is pretty shabby and its not right.

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    Selfish bil and sil and very ungrateful for the help they are receiving they should be more considerate

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    Default WWYD / WDYT - family situation

    My thoughts are that you and your DH should stay out of it. It is not your fight. That is between the inlaws and their son/DIL to sort it out themselves.

    (I don't mean for this to sound harsh, it's hard to convey tone on the web)

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    No advice but that's horrible!!! Maybe when they don't have anyone to look after the kids they will realise how much the grandparents do for them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Miss Sunshine View Post
    My thoughts are that you and your DH should stay out of it. It is not your fight. That is between the inlaws and their son/DIL to sort it out themselves.

    (I don't mean for this to sound harsh, it's hard to convey tone on the web)
    No it's fine! We've been trying to stay out of it... but it's starting to get out of hand. They're starting to cross more boundaries and MIL and FIL are both close to a depression diagnosis and this continual mistreatment is making it worse. DH isn't sure whether to tell his brother that he is out of line, or whether to see if he'll recognise it himself.

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    My first thoughts is to stay out of it too. It's really something your inlaws need to sort out with your BIL.

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    Sounds like the beginnings of elder abuse.

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    I so empathise because we have some similar stuff going on and we did try and intervene on the inlaws behalf and it didn't go well (to put it mildly). My advice would be to just be there as much as you can for your inlaws and encourage them to put in place some strict boundaries but other than that, you just have to watch (sad as it is).

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    @misskittyfantastico I'm so sorry you weren't able to help your in laws. I suspect that any attempts to speak with my BIL would go badly... because everything we say is a criticism apparently. So much so that stopping their kids from doing something potentially dangerous gets us in trouble. We've had some conversations about boundaries, and will no doubt do so again soon.


 

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