I think there's no hard and fast rule, it depends on all concerned. A friend of mine's DH has a female best friend and it's not an issue for them and they have a rock solid marriage.
But for me, I wouldn't be comfortable because I know DH and he would run the risk of it becoming an emotional affair. It's just the kind of person he is. I know it, he knows it, there's history... So we have certain relationship boundaries we stick to (both of us) and it works for us.
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01-12-2015 20:23 #11
01-12-2015 20:29 #12
For me it's fine but just depends whether I get any sort of weird vibe from the other chick... You know how you can always sort of tell when another woman is up to no good...
01-12-2015 20:30 #13
Most of my DH'S friends are female, and the industry he now works in means most of his coworkers are female. I've never had to set any boundaries - DH knows where to draw the line in most situations I think. I know his closest (female) friend, I think she is fantastic. He met her a few years ago at uni, and they just get along really well.
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01-12-2015 20:30 #14
I think it depends on your relationship.
I have no problems at all with DF having female friends as he has no problems with my having male friends.
We trust each other 100%, if we didn't we wouldn't be together.
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02-12-2015 05:15 #15
I would have no issues I have 2 very close male friends that I do dinner/movies, drunken nights out with, exchanged stories about partners etc. Basically a male BFF. I'd be devastated if dh told me to let Them go.
It's a trust issue. He trusts me. I trust him. Mainly he trusts me as I have a massive crush/lust for redheads and dh is a ginger whereas my friends have dark hair. Haha.
02-12-2015 05:21 #16-
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Hmmm ok under as long as boundaries are respected. I think it would be a bit off to go on nights out drinking with your other sex friend and tell them suit problems in your relationship.
02-12-2015 05:33 #17
02-12-2015 05:53 #18
If you are in a stable, trusting relationship I don't see how one could have a problem with it. Unless you were an insecure person and that your problem not your partners.
02-12-2015 05:54 #19
It depends on the nature of the friendship! DP is that sort of person who knows everybody - the nature of his work over the years, and the fact that we live in a small town, he knows everyone and has tons of female friends. Most of them, 99% in fact, are totally fine. They're my friends too as a result. But there's always that 1%! There's one or two I feel a need to keep my eye on, not because I don't trust DP, I just don't like their intentions. But luckily he can see through them too.
02-12-2015 06:26 #20
I think it's totally fine... Two of my best mates are married men... I work in a female dominated environment and really they don't have too much choice but to befriend women.
We text, chat, have coffee, go for drinks, dinner etc. one in particular I've grown very close too pretty quickly. He is like a little brother. I've also become friends with his wife and they invite me over to dinner, we went camping and I even posted on FB about having trouble installing a toilet seat and she tagged him to say he did theirs. He was upset that I wouldn't just text him first up. They've also looked after my boys. He pops over with his son if his wife has an appointment sometimes (but I secretly think it's because she's a super wife and he struggles a bit with Bub on his own!) I often do exercise dates and coffee dates now with his wife. We just fit each other's families.... I'd feel heartbroken if there was any suggestion that it was wrong for us to be friends based on the fact that we are different genders or he is married and I'm single.
In saying that... I've met married men who do try to take the friendship to another level. I think men like that are that way regardless... Men like my mate can have positive friendships with females and there are no boundaries crossed... His wife could be listening in to any conversation and feel comfortable... We even talk about her... But never in a negative way. I love how much he adores her. It's quite beautiful actually.
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