I just discovered this morning I've been experiencing an early miscarriage for the last week. I have to go for an ultrasound first thing Monday morning to rule out the possibility there could still be remants of the fetus. If so, and my bleeding and cramps haven't stopped completely by this time next week then I'll need an D&C. I'm hoping not so keeping my fingers crossed my body can flush itself out naturally 😯
I am totally devastated. I was on the implanon implant so me and my partner definitely weren't trying for a baby but it still feels like such a massive loss. My partner doesn't really feel anything, in fact I think he's relieved. I know in many ways we weren't prepared for a bub but I at least would have loved that baby no matter what. To be honest I'm a little hurt at his lack of compassion about the whole thing. He's fractured foot seems to be bothering him more by the sounds of things 😕 I think it's because he knows he would have had to give up a lot and he wouldn't have wanted to give up university and get a job for anything. It makes me sad on top of the grief I'm already experiencing. I honestly don't know how to think or feel. I just want to cry and cry but I can't seem to for some reason 😐
Any support would be just great from people who understand too. I'm just looking for hope that this awful feeling of dread hanging over me will go away 😢
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28-11-2015 19:20 #1Junior Member
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Found out I am experiencing an early miscarriage 😟
28-11-2015 19:40 #2
So sorry to hear this. Sending lots of hugs xx
I remember when I miscarried my husband didn't really understand why I was so upset. I think men just process things differently.
Be kind to yourself. Take the time to grieve. Every day it will hurt a little bit less when you think about what could have been.
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28-11-2015 19:41 #3
I haven't experienced a loss of my own but I couldn't read and run. I'm sending big hugs op. It's completely understandable that your feeling this way regardless of whether the pregnancy was planned. Be kind to yourself, let yourself grieve.
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28-11-2015 21:49 #4
Big hugs for you, I've had a few early and not so early losses and although my husband was always supportive and understanding a man cannot ever understand what we as women go through when we experience a miscarriage, I wouldn't beat on him too much he just doesn't get it, it better if you turn to a support group or forum and you'll find better support and understanding.
I can definitely tell you that things will get better, and the fact that you weren't prepared and weren't planning for a baby doesn't diminish what happened the loss is the same.
Hope you find solace somehow.
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29-11-2015 06:46 #5Junior Member
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Many thanks to you all 💜
Thank you very much ladies for your kind words, understanding and support. It is so very much appreciated. More than I can express here so thanks again 💙
I know I need time to grief. I've realised that this evening. I hope with time, things will ease. I will never forget my little loss though 😇
Can I ask a question however? To those of you that have responded so far and those who are reading this now; do you consider myself to still be a mum despite the short while bub was here? I feel as if I am but then I feel kind of stupid thinking like that when I wasn't very far along anyway...😕
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29-11-2015 07:19 #6
As for your question, it's really a personal decision. For me, I've found that acknowledging my miscarriages helped me grieve, so I celebrated Mother's Day, lit candles and had balloons on their due days etc.
I saw a psychic after miscarrying my last baby and the psychic told me that it helps to name them, as they are still little souls.
It all depends on what you want to do. I consider myself a mum. Just because my babies aren't here with me, doesn't mean they weren't a part of my life.
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29-11-2015 10:57 #7
So sorry for your loss xx
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