Good luck convincing him.
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24-11-2015 07:01 #11Senior Member
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24-11-2015 07:20 #12
24-11-2015 07:24 #13
My dp had it done 5 days ago so is still in recovery. Fair bit of bruising and discomfort but not too much pain. The uroligist said only 10 ejaculations before he should be cleared, and gave him a cup to collect after 10 and take to the drs.
Can't comment on the build up discomfort yet. I think we're both pretty anxious to see how things go once he's back in the saddle.
How long did other people wait before resuming sexual activity?
24-11-2015 07:27 #14
Oh and the uroligist did say that in some very rare cases, some men do have discomfort in the testicles from sperm build up (basically blue balls) but that it goes away once its reabsorbed
24-11-2015 07:40 #15
My DH had the snip at the start of the year. He had discomfort for 2 days and was out building our pool fence after that. I just asked him and he said there's no difference whatsoever to what he feels ejaculation-wise, or in any way for that matter.
24-11-2015 08:00 #16Senior Member
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Tell him to get it done to prove his point and then if he's right he can say he told you so
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24-11-2015 09:20 #17Senior Member
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I think your DH is being a d*** (pun intended).
You've already put your body on the line in a big way three times, and it's unfair to expect you to continue doing so either through another pregnancy, through hormonal contraception or through a tubal ligation. A vasectomy is a much simpler, much less risky procedure than a tubal ligation and doesn't carry the long-term risks associated with the pill (eg. DVT), so it's really the sensible option. I can understand why you're disappointed that he won't step up for both of you this time.
Is there a chance that the underlying reason for.his reluctance is that he feels like it might somehow diminish his masculinity or manhood?
DH just had a vasectomy last week, and while he's a bit sore ATM, it's less than the pain of carrying and giving birth twice! We obviously can't yet say what it's like longer-term, but the evidence of millions of men is that it's no different.
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24-11-2015 09:29 #18
Tell him it's condoms every time then!
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24-11-2015 09:50 #19
My dad had it, he had a few days of discomfort and then all was good.
It did naturally reverse itself after 4 years though and they had a surprise baby (7th pregnancy!).
Dad snipped again and mum got her tubes tied (it was recommended for other reasons).
H and I have discussed it, he is dead set against getting the snip. I don't know why, and he can't really explain it, but no way would I consider pressing the issue as he is that against it.
I won't use contraception after 35, as I don't want to having been on it since age 14.
Neither of us like condoms.
At the moment, we haven't discussed it, as there is still a few years to go (I'm 27 and this is our first bub) and things change.
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