I'm due with our third baby in a week and I'm thinking about contraception after the birth. This bub was a surprise and I don't want any more, neither does DH.
I really don't want to take artificial hormones by way of the pill or via the implant for the next twenty years. Also heard about a lot of problems with the mirena.
I've suggested DH have a vasectomy but he's against it. He says he'll get pain or discomfort afterwards because there is no 'release'. I'm not sure what he's on about as he'd still ejaculate, just without live sperm in there (to my knowledge). So not really sure what he thinks the difference would be. Or why he'd feel one....
Can anyone who's partner has had the procedure offer advice far how their DH felt afterwards? Was sex still as satisfying? Was there any pain or discomfort after the healing process was over?
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23-11-2015 19:07 #1
Anyone's partner had the snip?
23-11-2015 19:13 #2
My partner had it done just over a year ago.
I suggest your partner do some research because it sounds like he is making excuses up.
My DF has had no problems. There was a little discomfort but nothing nurofen didn't fix for the first week and the bruising was mind blowing but after that you wouldn't even know he had it done.
Our s$x life is better than ever - basically because we know we aren't going to have any 'surprises'!!
I highly recommend a vasectomy!!!
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23-11-2015 20:05 #3
Thanks Lincolns mummy! I said he didn't know the facts as it sounded liked BS but he insists he does.
Will certainly be finding some information for him. Of course I cannot force him, but at least get the facts straight before you form your argument against it!
23-11-2015 20:08 #4Senior Member
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No issues here. DH didn't even bruise.
23-11-2015 20:13 #5
No problems here. Initially I thought I'd get my tubes tied, but after researching found it to be a not-so-good idea and just asked if DH could discuss it with guys at work to see how they went with it.
Procedure went fine, one side was a little achey for a couple extra weeks but then has been no problem.
Perhaps he can meet with the urologist or snip specialist and learn more first as well as speaking to guys who've actually had it done that he knows and respects.
23-11-2015 20:18 #6Senior Member
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You're right, the ejaculate is exactly the same just with out live sperm. But don't push him and make sure you're both 100% sure. They're cheap to get done but should you change your mind, $10000 to reverse! Oh and we paid for the reversal and were still unsuccessful a year later so another 20k to ivf and 2 years and we are only now 15weeks pregnant. All for the sake of one more. But if you're both sure you'll never change your mind it's an easy option and as others have said they are very satisfied. But I wouldn't do anything rash just after having a Bub when life is so hectic. You never know what the future holds x
All the best in your decision x
23-11-2015 20:19 #7
My DH had a vasectomy a couple of years ago after our surprise second child. It was much easier than he had expected, a simple procedure done under a local anesthetic. Recovery was fine and he has none of the discomfort that your husband has mentioned. As a PP also said, our sex life is so much better now. Not having to think about the 'what ifs' has really made it more fun for us. We knew we didn't want anymore children so it made sense to us. Good luck 😊
23-11-2015 20:22 #8
I've never ever heard of anyone saying there's 'no release'. It's like he thinks his penis will blow up and explode or something. Anyway, FWIW my DH had a vasectomy one day and I flew interstate the next day leaving him home with 2 kids for 3 nights. It was done in the urologists office, he was back home within 90mins, he had minimal bruising, needed panadol for 24 hours, and was totally back to normal a week later. I've got no idea how you get him on board, but good luck.
23-11-2015 20:28 #9
Like with any procedure there are risks. Taking contraceptives have risks much higher than a vasectomy. My DH had one over a year ago, there was some pain for 3-4 days. Next to no bruising and s.ex is better. Of course he feels release! No man on earth would do it if he couldn't feel release.
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24-11-2015 06:43 #10
Thanks for the replies.
I've just said let's go and get the facts from a specialist at some point next year rather than assuming we think we know the facts. I don't want to force or pressure him, just wish he'd consider it with the right information before making a decision.
His point about no release is because we don't have much sex as it is, and he often feels discomfort as a result of that as he's not ejaculating enough. He thinks if he has the procedure and is not getting rid of live sperm, as it's being reabsorbed into the body, he'll feel like that constantly. I said that can't be true or all men who have it done would get that discomfort from not getting rid of the live sperm.
Anyway, he really went off when I raised the subject last night. So I'm just going to leave it for a while before raising it again and seeing if he'll talk to someone next year. It just annoys me so much because he says there's risks so he's not willing to risk it, but then expects me to take risks with contraception. After I've already done that for years, and had three kids and two related surgeries. I think I've been exposed to enough risks. His turn now.
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