Op maybe you both need to sit down and talk to each other honestly. See if you can get to the heart of what's going on, I don't think he's currently being very fair on you, sounds like you are doing most of the parenting. Can you maybe try and get him to help you with playtime/baths/bedtime etc. one or two designated nights a week to start?
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23-11-2015 17:59 #41
Is he right?
Last edited by Clementine Grace; 23-11-2015 at 18:04.
23-11-2015 18:41 #42
I'm not going to get into which is harder. Both are hard and valuable, just in different ways. Some SAHM's have family support and therefore a break, others don't. Some have one child, others have 4, some kids are easy, some are high maintenance (like mine ).
As to the OP, I'd want to proverbially strangle your husband after about 40 seconds of hearing his crap. As a long term SAHM, I'm so tired of the 'you sit on your a@se' rubbish. In our house I do 95% of the housework, which I'm completely fine with. I don't have an outside job, DH does. But hell yes, I expect him to do stuff with the kids when he gets home. My DH always tells me what a good job I do, that he knows how hard I work (and I really do), that the house would fall apart within 5 secs without me.
Your husband is a jerk. Had you said the family was really struggling financially I would say maybe you should get some work but you say the family is quite comfortable. Does he have to work 12 hour days? Why can't he cut down to 8, it sounds like you can afford it?
I couldn't stay with someone that held such contempt for my role in the family.
23-11-2015 18:43 #43
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23-11-2015 18:53 #46
I guess too there are all kinds of sahm's. Some (and not all!) have kids that sleep 3 hours a day and get a break, some go to day care a few days so they get some time, some sahm mums do get a break during the day (sounds like the OP does not) which is why I don't always get the "sahm mums are 24/7" as a blanket statement as opposed to mums who work outside the home. I guess I feel like all mums are working 24/7, maybe it just feels that way to me!
23-11-2015 18:58 #47
I completely agree all mums work 24/7. Working mums are at work then parent while home never having a break, SAHM never get a break either.
23-11-2015 19:10 #48
23-11-2015 19:22 #49
Given there are all women in this thread talking to each other, and the OP is a woman I would have thought it was a given we are talking about women? At least in my experience it isn't a sweeping statement. A majority of the men I know work for 8 hours then lounge around while their partner (working or SAHM) runs herself ragged until she falls into bed.
It's like we need to have a 5000 word essay every time we post covering every single angle, possibility or opinion so as not to offend anyone *sighs*
23-11-2015 19:26 #50
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