Does anyones partner come home from work and help out with the kids, dishes etc? Because mine doesn't. Even on weekends.
I am finding myself getting really stressed and frustrated at him for the past 6 months+ because he seems to think because he works he gets to come home and sit on his ****, watch TV, not help with the kids and complain when I ask him to help me.
I am a stay at home mum and try my very best to keep this house in order but that doesnt mean I should be the only person that does everything surely? He asks for half an hour to relax when he gets home and I agree to that but even after 2 hours he's still complaining? It's not like he has a hard labourers job, he sits at a desk and if he isn't doing that he's driving.
I don't know if it's because he is lazy or I'm being unreasonable?
I've always grown up with my father, uncles etc working hard jobs and coming home and being happy to help with whatever needs to be done despite how tired they were and my mother, some of my aunties were stay at home mums for a long time.
Pretty much just a rant but I feel so alone with everything and that he doesn't see he has other responsibilities
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19-11-2015 13:07 #1
Partner does nothing
19-11-2015 13:14 #2
He's lazy. If he lived alone he'd have to cook and clean for himself so why does he get out of it because he's married?
19-11-2015 13:29 #3Senior Member
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19-11-2015 13:32 #4
19-11-2015 13:35 #5
He is lazy and treating you like crap.
My DF has an insanely stressful job yet he comes home, has a 15 min shower to wind down then everything is 50%.
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19-11-2015 13:43 #6
Lazy and/or doesn't understand what your 'job' really entails.
Everything's split in this household. Of course there's stuff we don't want to do, but keeping the house and family running is a responsibility we share.
19-11-2015 13:51 #7
We are supposed to be moving out in 2 weeks and he hasn't even cut up all the tree branches he put in the shed over 4 months ago when he trimmed a few overhanging trees. I have been out there slowly sawing them up day by day in the lovely Brisbane weather. I am also pregnant so it's the last thing I want to be doing but I think if he isn't going to do it then I have to or its never ever going to get done.
19-11-2015 13:57 #8
Yep, agree with others, he's lazy. Have you tried to talk with him without having an actually go at him? DH went through a stage where he was coming home and sitting on the lounge when he got home and would only do things if I asked repetitively. I turned around to him and said how I was feeling, how exhausted I am running around after the kids and keeping house etc, he completely understood. Ever since he'll come home cook, clean, help with school lunches etc.
19-11-2015 14:13 #9
19-11-2015 14:14 #10
What if you sit him down and ask why your job is 24/7 and his has an end time? I find my hubby will get a bit blind to what needs doing, but I ask him which job he wants to do. I'll say "do you want to do the baths, or clean up the kitchen etc?" Or whatever the things that need doing. It kinda reminds him that it's not all my job.
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