Ok so one of my good friends is a hairdresser and has been doing my hair for 10 years. She is ok not fantastic with my hair but I get a good deal ($110 for eyebrow wax, cut, full head of foils and blow dry!) and I haven't been too fussed about my hair over the years. It's kind of grown into a long non-style. It's down to bra strap level and all the same length and a mix of brown shades with some blonde highlights.
Anyway, I've got a 4.5 month old and I can't wear my hair down as she's grabbing it and to be honest I can never be bothered wearing my hair down as it requires blow dry and straightening or it is a disgusting frizz ball. I wear it up every day. And I'm feeling a bit frumpy.
My DH has been at me for years to get my hair done by a very speccy hairdresser he knows and I have resisted to now as I didn't want to offend my friend. But I have decided I want a major chop (up above my shoulders) and colour restyle and would like it done really well so I have agreed to get him to do my hair. To put it into perspective this hairdresser is the creative director for a chain of high end salons and mostly does international work on ad campaigns, movies, fashion shows. He's agreed to do my hair yay lucky me!
So what do I tell my friend?! I hate these awkward situations. I can't be honest (lol) and say I wanted to get this amazing hairdresser to do my hair because he'll do a better job. That's mean even if it's true. I was thinking I could say that my DH bought me a voucher for Xmas for a makeover? It's almost true as I'll be getting it done around Xmas and he's offered to pay for it for my Xmas present. How do I have this conversation? I'm due to get my hair done by her next week and not sure if I should cancel or just get it done and not re-book for my next appointment. Breaking up with a hairdresser is hard enough but when they are your friend it's x1000 awkward. Depending how much I love my new do I may not go back to her and just get the fancy pants hairdresser to keep doing it. I have never liked my hair so if he can make my like my hair I will love him forever. I've never been to a fancy salon I am so excited for this big change! But I'm so dreading cancelling on my friend and explaining my new hairdo. Help!!
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16-11-2015 11:22 #1Senior Member
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WWYD - awkward hairdresser situation?
16-11-2015 11:27 #2
I'd just tell me friend that DH organised it as part of a special gift and be completely honest. I don't think it's awkward, if your friend makes it so then what kind of friend would she be?
16-11-2015 11:31 #3
I like the idea of a voucher
To be honest $110 isn't THAT great, my old hairdresser who wasn't a friend did all that - wax, cut, colour, foils, blow dry and ghd did it for $90. (She was the cheapest I'd come across).
I ditched her too after 7 years as she'd stopped listening to what I wanted and I always left a little disappointed. With a new baby I also couldn't be bothered. I did a runner. The first time I saw her in the shops and I had a different colour it was super awkward. I still haven't settled on a new hairdresser 3 years later.
There's no point wasting your time feeling frumpy and forking out cash if you're not happy. Just lie to avoid hurt feelings lol.
Good luck with it all. Glad your DH is supportive with forking out for an exxy hairdresser!
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16-11-2015 11:31 #4
How exciting getting your hair done by someone new who has such a good reputation too!
Could you tell her that your DH had organised it as a surprise? And that he had to wait a while to get the appointment?
I hope your friend is good about it for you. It's hard having a new baby & you deserve to get pampered & look forward to having a gorgeous new hair do
16-11-2015 11:32 #5
agreed. just say it's a gift from your dh and you'll be going there to use the voucher for the next hair do.
are you planning to keep using the high end hair guy? or will you be back to your friend after this one time at the nice salon?
if it's a one off then I think there's no reason to feel awkies (even though I probably still would lol). if you're planning to drop your friend as your hairy and keep using the high end place, well it's not a convo is want to have either but let us know how you go lol
enjoy the special treatment at the high end place! I'm jealous!
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16-11-2015 11:37 #6
I would just tell her you wanted a change. Be honest.
16-11-2015 11:38 #7
My mum is a hairdresser and I often daydream about what it would be like to get someone else to do my hair (young, funky designer type!!). A bit different as she does it for free (can not complain, I know!!). But completely understand how you feel.
I do like the suggestion of 'gift from hubby' - you don't need to tell your current hairdresser until next time you see her (assuming you do?!). Keep the option open to go back to her just in case this new one doesn't work out for whatever reason.
I think most hairdressers are busy and wouldn't be highly offended if you went elsewhere every now and then. If you choose to break up with her completely you'll need to have an honest conversation, explain it was time for a change but that you fully appreciate everything she's done for you to date. If you do get a dramatic style change I am sure she would understand you wanting to go back to the responsible hairdresser for maintenance etc.
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16-11-2015 11:47 #8
I would just say your dh organised it as an xmas present.
I didnt think my friend would mind me trying a new hairdresser while she was away on her long honeymoon. When she got back she charged me as a regular client (double what I was originally paying) and turned into a complete nutcase! But i think she was just that type of personality.
You will feel fantastic once you get your hair done the way you want it.
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16-11-2015 12:04 #9Senior Member
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Thanks for all the advice! I just hate these awkward situations 😁 I think I'll go ahead with the DH xmas makeover story which is true anyway and just hope she doesn't get too offended that I'm getting my hair done elsewhere. I'm so gutless lol but I am soooo excited about my new look!
16-11-2015 12:15 #10
I would tell her your DH has organised it for you as part of his Xmas gift to you.
I've always been curious if hairdressers care when long term clients go elsewhere, as in - are they offended? I can understand the awkwardness from your perspective considering you've been going to her so long.
Hope you get an amazing cut!
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