Location. 5min vs 30 min is massive especially when you have to get all the kids in the car etc.
It adds so much stress and time to the trip.
We were considering buying a house that would put us 25 min away from friends and decided against it because of that.
We have had friends who moved 1/2 hr away and we don't see much of them anymore
Used to catch up at the drop of a hat a couple of times a week. Now it's once every 2d month if that and we need to schedule which is always a bit difficult with nap time etc.
Also to us a 3bed is perfect size for a family of 5 so I don't mind smaller spaces 😊
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07-11-2015 19:53 #21
07-11-2015 20:06 #22Senior Member
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07-11-2015 20:58 #23
I'd still see my local friends weekly as we have a regular catch-up/play date. A few of the places we catch up at are sort of half way between this area and the other area we're considering.
DHs work is only 5min away from here, it will be more like 20min from the other area. So still pretty close. I'm not working and I study by distance so it's not really an issue for me in that regard. We'd keep the same daycare (next to DHs work), same GP etc. as all that stuff is in the main commercial area anyway.
I so wish we could just extend! I really do love this location for so many reasons and it will be hard to leave when we do eventually move.
07-11-2015 21:48 #24
Can you go up rather than out with your existing house?
07-11-2015 21:53 #25
I would choose the house, I'm currently looking at movie away away. Far from friends and family to acreage and a larger house.
It's just about weighing up what's important and beneficial to your family.
I know I'd go crazy if I stay in my 3bed 1 bathroom house with a couple of children
07-11-2015 22:08 #26
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07-11-2015 22:09 #27
In your situation I'd go for the bigger house, but then my view is probably a bit skewed because we don't see our friends regularly and driving doesn't bother us...we are used to it being a blended family not living close to our exes.
In fact we just bought acreage 1.5 hours away; we move on Monday week! DP and I are kind of reclusive though, compared to a lot of people we know. We do look forward to making new friends in our new country location. I plan to check out the CWA and DP wants to get back into the CFA.
07-11-2015 22:49 #28
That's too easy!
Perfect house every time!
08-11-2015 04:41 #29Senior Member
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Plus, whilst the big houses looked appealing online neither DH or I enjoy domestic duties so the idea of spending a whole day mowing, and 2 days cleaning each week didn't appeal, and we knew our location was the most important thing, and we didn't actually want the big house anyway.
We are comfortable in our small house, and not sure what we would do in such an oversized house anyway....except fill it up with stuff we don't need and spend more time on domestic duties.
At the end of the day you need to decide what is important and most appealing for your family. I'd decide before your kids are school age, though. Also, are daycare and your DH's work only 20 minutes away in peak hour traffic? 30 minutes away for us meant 50 minutes away in peak hour traffic. Neither DH or I were keen to spend nearly 2 hours a day in our car driving to and from work. That's 10 hours a week we can spend doing other things that didn't involve sitting in traffic.
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08-11-2015 05:35 #30Senior Member
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Hi Cue, I would personally go for location, location, location, because 'logistics' and travel time are important (I should say I am very time poor, work full time and logistics and weekend lifestyle are important, and I like to walk to shops, school and transport rather than drive). Travelling for school and daycare and shops, if that can be avoided, is always a good thing. we love our current home, however, have just purchased a new home which meets our current and future requirements (I am thinking ahead when I have 3 teenage children and what services are easily accessible to them as they grow)- walk to primary school, walk to our desired highschool, walk to train station for access to the city, walk to supermarkets and shops, beach. the house is a real dump! But it offers complete lifestyle and 'logistical' wellbeing (for us), so we are trading our lovely home for a 'renovation job'. I guess you have to decide what is truly important to you, make some for and against lists, and go from there. Good luck!
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