Does he actually like his job? It sounds to me like he resents that you get to stay at home while he works. Is it possible he feels under pressure as the sole breadwinner?
Just playing devils advocate as my DH hates being the sole breadwinner. So I work part time because I enjoy it but also it (strangely enough) makes him appreciate me more as he has to step up his work around the home.
This is just something I've noticed in my relationship. My Dh is far from a pig but I have noticed an element of resentment when I haven't been working.
How old is your child?
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29-10-2015 20:06 #11
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29-10-2015 20:11 #12
This is a good point. I forgot to mention my dh also said he is jealous because he doesn't really like his job (not challenging enough for him). And I know he secretly hopes when I finish my degree I'll be the "breadwinner" and he can "live it up" being a sahd. I can't see that ever happening though.π
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29-10-2015 20:57 #13
I'm probably going to be stoned for saying this... But I'm not sure why you'd need him to help around the house if you get 3 child free days a week??
Maybe my view is warped because I'm a single mummy so obviously I do everything... But I get one kid free day a week, one day with DS2 home and 3 days working. I have no idea what I'd do with myself if I had 3 days off. Or do you have another child at home??
I'm not trying to be rude but in all honesty if I had a partner at home kid free for close to half the week while I was working... I'd probably feel disgruntled too.
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29-10-2015 21:04 #14
Fighting with your spouse
I didn't know the OP's child was in care 3 days a week. That definitely makes me think resentment is a big part of this ongoing fight.
OP I would sit down and ask him why he's so angry at you. Be prepared to not like the answers.
Honestly my DH would be very similar in this situation (unless of course there's a reason that we aren't aware of).Last edited by Sonja; 29-10-2015 at 21:07.
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29-10-2015 21:12 #17
Fighting with your spouse
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29-10-2015 21:19 #18
Fighting with your spouse
Yeah my DH is far from a pig to. I really don't like that he was called that.
You're absolutely right. I do believe he resents that I get to stay home and constantly tells me I don't need to work but yet I know he prefers that I do. I was working 2-3 days a week up until 2 weeks ago and you've just made me realise that this argument wasn't happening during that time I was working. I also noticed he helped way more on the days I worked ...
DD is 2.5.
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