Im the first to admit that as I grow older I take issue with alot more things in day to day life...but Im wondering if its just me being a grumpy old woman or whether others would feel the same.
My daughter who is 4 goes to dance class once a week... its a class where they do a bit of ballet, some jazz and tap. She loves it and the teacher seems nice enough although we dont stay to watch and shes always got back to back classes so theres no real opporunity to chat.
My issue is with the end of year concert and the costume in particular. We paid $50 deposit at the beginning of this term and when i asked what it would be i was told a gold tutu..i thought this was great as it would be good for dressups later. Anyway, the next payment was another $40 on pick up and it turns out it is a bra type crop top and tiny skirt both made of shiney lycra. Besides being tacky tacky tacky and do not worth $90 I really think its inapproriate for 4 year olds to be wearing a crop top. And dont get me started on the makeup. I mentioned it a couple of the other mums and they werent concerned at.
Also they are expected to perform at two back to back concerts at 5pm and then again at 8pm... finishing at around 10.30pm. DD is normally in bed at 7.00!
I was considering just pulling her from the concert but she really wants to do it. And now i think maybe im just over reacting and should just get over it.
Would appreciste others thoughts on this.
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22-10-2015 18:50 #1
Dance class issue - over reacting?
22-10-2015 18:54 #2Senior Member
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Icky, no way would I let my DD wear that. I chose my DD's dance school very carefully to avoid nonsense like that.
The back to back concerts is just stupid.
Can you speak to the director about the costume? Perhaps they can be altered? Maybe they could wear a black leotard underneath?
22-10-2015 21:21 #3
My local dance school dresses the girls very provocatively and the dance moves are just as provocative. Not on! I refused to send my DD there.
I've found 3 other dance studios (not as local) that were much more age appropriate in both costume and dance moves.
She's currently doing a theatrical dance class to the Lion King (with a bit of acting). She's 10. I paid $100 and will get 4 costumes for that (3 leotards, 4 tutu skirts to go over the top and an African tribal style dress). Best value dance concert she's ever been in - and she loves that she's doing 5 dances in the concert rather than the standard 1.
22-10-2015 21:29 #4
I own a dance school. I don't do midriff costumes at all, but that's simply my preference. I run a hire scheme with costumes, but if your school doesn't then $50 - $100 is not uncommon for a costume. $90 for what you are getting sounds over the top though. Make up is completely normal as stage lights do really wash out faces. Two concerts on the same day is also common. It's usually a seating issue coupled with the cost of hiring a venue for more than one day.
22-10-2015 21:44 #5
My DD is 4 & does ballet. The time of the concert wouldnt bother me,although in her ballet school, the little ones only do the day concert,not the evening. But no WAY in hell would I be happy with her wearing a skimpy little gold outfit! 4 years old?! :0 nuh. My DD has had to wear a cute little animal costume, or a little party dress- style outdit with a ribbon in her hair for her concerts. Very age appropriate for a 4 y.o. And $90 seems very excessive,although for me, it would be the outfit, not the cost that would deter me.
22-10-2015 22:00 #6
I am generally ok with crop tops for dance ... but that is just me.
DD also did dance at that age and the concert being late at night was a big issue for me. I ended up pulling her out as the school simply did not take enough consideration for the little ones.
Back to back concerts I DEFINITELY would have an issue with
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