I haven't read the whole thread but I definitely agree with the pps who said a lot of their body image issues came from close family members. I also had parents who likened my legs to tree trunks (at 8!) and a Mum who doesn't believe she is beautiful. It's no wonder I've always struggled as well.
I've never liked Barbies myself though.
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23-10-2015 13:23 #21
23-10-2015 13:57 #22
Barbie never influenced my body image and don't have an issue with her. I don't agree with bratz dolls though
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23-10-2015 14:25 #23Senior Member
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Like most of the PPs I agree that Barbie dolls in and of themselves are not that big of a problem, the wider saturation from the media, society etc with the obsession about women and appearance is a bigger problem imo.
When DD was younger I was dead set against her having a Barbie but I've given it a lot of thought over the last couple of years and I think if she wanted one now I would let her have it.
Like others have said I think what's more important is the example I set for her with regards to how she views herself. I've also struggled with my body image for years, which stemmed from my Mum and her obsession with weight and looks. Til today the first thing she will comment on about a person is how they look; she thinks telling someone they've lost so much weight is an appropriate and wonderful compliment. She told me when I was about 10 that I looked pregnant (when I go back and look at the photos I was a perfectly reasonable size). I'm determined to never do to my DD what my Mum has done to me and I think that's why I was so obsessed with her not being exposed to Barbies at the beginning but now I see it's a much bigger and complex issue and at the end of the day I had Barbies when I was younger and I'm fairly certain they were not the cause of my issues and anxieties regarding my body.
23-10-2015 17:07 #24
Yeah I never thought women were "supposed" to have big boobs and a little waist because of barbies...
I thought that because 90% of the women in my family have big boobs (incl me) and a little waist (mine is average).
Still it wasn't an "ideal", just what I saw as normal. I never looked at a smaller chested/larger waisted person and thought they were abnormal...
23-10-2015 21:13 #25
I loved playing Barbies growing up, DD has them but she is only three and immediately takes their clothes off and insists they need a bath, mats all their hair up and pinches their shoes to wear on two of her fingers pretending they are two legs. Our Barbies are sad looking creatures.
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23-10-2015 23:26 #26Senior Member
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I loved my barbies - loved them so much I gave them Roxette haircuts and texta nipples!
I agree that banning barbie became unimportant to me and I promise you that I agonised over it! I'm a feminist for FFS! But ultimately, as a mum, a feminist, a woman, all I can do is model self love to my daughter and sons, model healthy, respectful behaviours, try and give context to media saturation and just hope to hades that they'll be ok!
24-10-2015 07:04 #27
It makes me sad that there's such big concerns over barbie. For me she was nothing more than a great toy. I never thought about looking like her or wondering why my body didn't look like hers. I did want her wardrobe though!
I don't have girls, so I can see that my barbies will remain in storage (sadly) as my boys don't show any interests in dolls at all. But if I did I wouldn't hesitate in buying them barbies to play with.
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24-10-2015 07:16 #28
In the kindest possible way try not to overthink it. Also be careful not to project your experiences onto your daughter. I'm sure than Barbies will play less than nothing in her perceptions of body image. It's your positive parenting and the battle against media which will be key in affirming her confidence.
I was an only child and from an unsettled single parent household. My home life was far from what I craved for security. Barbies and playing 'house' and using my imagination to create a make believe world provided a good release. Let children be children. They'll figure it out. It's just a doll at the end of the day and girls have been playing with dolls for years.
24-10-2015 07:25 #29
For me Barbies were a great way for me to use my imagination. I would make houses and cars for them as we had no money for all the accessories.
I would think a child would get body issues more from what people are saying to them or what the mefia are portraying as perfect body image.
24-10-2015 08:18 #30Member
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OMg it's a plastic doll. Get over it!
My sister and I played with Barbies all the time as kids and we don't have body image issues. My girls and son play barbies too and they aren't thinking 'omg I'm so fat' they're just playing.
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