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    Default At what age do I talk about sex?

    My DD just turned 7. She has extremely limited knowledge about puberty, and none about sex or reproduction. She know that babies are born vaginally or via c-section, that she'll grow hair, breasts and get a period as she gets older. That's about the extent of her knowledge.

    I've always adopted the principle of answer any question she asks in an age appropriate way. She's never asked anything beyond the above.

    At what age (if at all) do I stop waiting and start initiating the conversation?

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    My seven year old is the same. I'm not worried at 7 that she needs to know more than that.

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    I would say at about age 9. I have known some girls to get their period by age 10 and its just my opinion, but I would want my dd to be informed of such things by the time she turned 10.

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    My boys are (almost) 7 and 8 and they know *a lot* about puberty/reproduction/conception and birth. I was a surrogate last year and we felt it was important to us that they knew the difference between them being our babies and that baby not being ours. They do know about sperm/egg donation as well.

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    When they ask.

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    my DD is 9 - but quite immature so still not had that conversation yet.

    not looking forward to it, but I guess it will have to be soon

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    I feel that 7 is very young.
    I would wait until she asks, and don't worry about the waiting just yet, she has plenty of time!

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    I'm all for talking about sex in the same way as any other topic. So yes, as they ask, but also where the environment brings up talking points/teaching moments. So I talk about things that are mentioned on TV; overheard conversations etc. etc. Not in great detail unless it's asked about, but just as passing comments, to normalise sex as a topic like any other.

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    Thank you for your replies amd advice

    I'm quite happy to wait a few more years but was just unsure if that's the right thing to do!

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    I think that girls should have that talk before their first period, so that they fully understand fertility before they become fertile themselves. So I guess around 10 if they haven't asked about it.

    The latest I would leave it with boys is 13, right about the time puberty hits.


 

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