See I've read people say I'm setting a bad example to my kids. But I don't feel I am. I feel like I'm enjoying the fruits of my feminist predecessors labour. I have choice. I don't stay home bc DH tells me to, or bc we are in the 1950's. I CHOOSE this and I love it 90% of the time.
And my kids love it. My mum worked and she never come to any school stuff, never was involved with the school, never picked me up from school or fundraised for me. I'm going to be crystal clear - there is NOTHING wrong with women who work. Some work bc they need to, others bc they want to and find being at home drives them bat sh*t crazy. But for MY children they love me being at home. This thread is in no way a PA dig at working mums.
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08-10-2015 22:00 #11
08-10-2015 22:02 #12
08-10-2015 22:05 #13
I'm a huge advocate of woman and girls setting themselves up so they ALWAYS have choices, I would be quite literally be heartbroken if I ever thought my DD was at the mercy of a bloke once she started having children, and she felt like she had no out.
So I would be happy for my DD to be a stay at home mum if that was what she wanted to do, but only after she had established herself in some way, it's a hard one. I would just never like to see her have to go through the same experiences I did when the boys were small, it was long term gruelling trying to establish a decent living to support us all, I just don't want her to be vulnerable like that.
08-10-2015 22:05 #14
lol what's changing your surname got to do with it?
08-10-2015 22:07 #15
08-10-2015 22:08 #16
Would you be disappointed if your DD chose to be at home long term?
I hope because my DD has both a mum and a grand mother who kept their name, she might not even consider changing hers 😉
But yes IMO our only job as parent is to teach independence to our kids. Big part of this is having a way of earning money and not depend on anyone but oneself.
08-10-2015 22:09 #17
I'd be hugely disappointed, I'd never want any of my kids to be financially dependent on their partner, I want them to have financial independence, their own superannuation etc.
Its not the SAHP thing itself, it's the financial and unemployability trap it creates.
08-10-2015 22:09 #18
Yep, I will be honest and say I would be a bit sad. I want my kids to be happy too and if being home meant my daughters would be happy then I would try to be happy but deep down I would want more for them.
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08-10-2015 22:12 #20
to each his own I guess.
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