I would reply with something like, "thank you for your detailed letter. I have forwarded it to our psychologist, and (s)he will be in touch with you to discuss. I will also be raising your concerns with his in-room carers."
Talk to those who actually look after him- show them the letter and see their reactions. Get your psych involved and say this is stressing you and could he/she please speak to the centre leader directly.
I agree that if your DS really dislikes going there, it's time to move on. BUT, just in case (sorry, the childcarer in me is careful) make sure the psych gets the letter to put your mind at ease.
Also, unless she is a qualified psych or paediatrician or development specialist, etc, she has no right (or grounds) to do an assessment. I would also mention this to your psych.. perhaps the psych can show her how out of line (and bordering on fuzzy legal grounds- she's not a dr!) she is.
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12-10-2015 09:17 #71
12-10-2015 10:34 #72
Another daycare issue
Thanks all, I honestly feel like she has taken the pieces of info *i* have given her on random occasions and then over exaggerated them.
I will let our psych deal with the letter for now, but I just seriously want to complain. I can't fathom how the centre leader, who has no qualifications, can read into things and make small things out to be such a huge deal, and also misunderstand things so much.
One example being she says DS doesn't like the texture of playdough... Umm well then WHY THE **** does he LOVE it at home? Can't get enough, same as kinetic sand.
Another thing - she reckons he 'looks at different pictures and can recognise SOME shapes' WTF??? DS knows and can *draw* more shapes than I even know existed. For example a hexagon!! that's not an easy word to say, and he recognises it, a shape i never learnt until I was older, it's not your 'normal' basic shape.
It's laughable the way she worded this, I mean, he's a NORMAL 4 yr old and very bright. He can name just about every animal, shape, object, colour etc that I point out, and he has been able to do this from a very young age. Numbers, letters, etc, you name it.
It's actually quite insulting.
She says DS is 'fixated' on certain things at daycare - for eg. The bike, the magnetic shapes, the bouncing pillow - umm well, those are some of the few things there to play with, and excuse me, but EVERY time I drop him off, the exact same boys are playing with the magnetic shapes... And he asks to aswell. Why is HE the only one with an issue?? When every morning the other boys are playing with the shapes as well?
I just don't get it.
I cannot wait to speak to our psych about this. It's driving me crazy.
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12-10-2015 11:04 #73Senior Member
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What a terrible center! You know your child best. Not some power tripper. Sounds like the centre is hindering his development and growth, he sounds like a bright kid, probably bored with their lack of stimulation. I'd be taking him out asap!
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12-10-2015 11:36 #74
I think you need to move. It's no uncommon for careers to make "observations" that can be sent to people making a diagnosis but they certainly don't make a diagnosis themselves. Can you change centres now rather than later?
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12-10-2015 12:11 #75
13-10-2015 18:59 #76
A quick update for anyone who is interested, we are seeing our psych tomorrow about the letter, she's read it already and we will discuss tomorrow.
Now today, I went to pick DS up. They were about to play a game so I decided to stay to watch, they played duck duck goose.
So anyway they start and a little girl goes first, she chooses a boy, the boys chooses another boy and so it goes on, after about 5 boys, they get to my DS and choose him, i watch excitedly to see what happens, he runs and tries to catch the boy, and then, all the previous boys who have been chosen, decide to try and trip my DS.
They didn't trip each other and didn't trip the little girl. These are the same boys who he has had issues with in the past, they are very cliquey already and I felt really bad for my DS.
I am not surprised that my DS isn't thriving in this environment
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13-10-2015 19:34 #77
13-10-2015 19:45 #78
Poor thing! Did the educator pull the boys up on it?
13-10-2015 20:02 #79
She did, but they didn't listen and did it again and she didn't say anything about it the other times.
13-10-2015 21:47 #80
Did you speak up? I'm not above telling other kids off at day care!
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