The first was family daycare, he loved it but outgrew it and *we* felt it would be better to move him to a bigger daycare to ready him for school.
2nd daycare - he was there for only a few months before we pulled him out because the centre was crap. He came home sunburnt a few times and also had an empty water bottle at the end of every day in the blazing hot sun (amongst other things) we pulled him out because *we* didn't like the centre.
3rd daycare is where he is now.
I agree that it's no issue checking it out to see if he has ASD, that's not my issue. My main issues are that it feels like he's being targeted for no reason at all. Well for minor reasons. And I feel that mentioning autism is quite sudden and for unwarranted reasons.
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08-10-2015 13:55 #21
08-10-2015 14:04 #22Senior Member
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The way the director just threw in a reference to ASD when she hasn't even had a meeting with you to discuss any concerns is just wrong and so unprofessional and tactless.
In saying that though, you often mention your DS and his 'issues', tantrums, whinging and behaviours... so maybe they have seen some things there that they haven't yet mentioned to you? Maybe they've had some suspicions but weren't yet certain enough to mention it, until the director blurted it out?
If I were you I would be calmly asking the director what she meant, and if she believes you need to do some investigating.
08-10-2015 16:05 #23
I would be concerned and ask the Director for an explanation pronto, but I would be more concerned about the little fellow's behaviour because the last thing any parent wants is their child to be singled out, or 'different'.
08-10-2015 17:07 #24
I work with children every day.
Lots of what you've written can be signs of children that are somewhere on the asd spectrum, I'm not saying he has it and it's not so black and white.
I would ask for an interview with the daycare and see what's going on and what issues they are having with him.
The fact that he's having a few meltdowns at age four at pre school is a bit of a concern. A lot of parents freak out at the mention of asd and maybe that's how you feel, many also go into complete denial and become angry towards the teachers trying to help.
I'm not saying your child has asd but it won't hurt to see a paediatrician or seek intervention from early intervention services. At the end of the day you need to do what's best for your son and seeking help, sorting out the issues and helping him out are all that matter regardless of him having asd or not.
08-10-2015 17:12 #25
With respect, while CC workers do work alongside ASD kids every day they are not qualified to be making diagnosises. A couple of years ago an inexperienced female teacher remarked that DS1 had symptoms of ASD which I actually found laughable. My child does NOT have autism and apart from poor impulse control (what 5 year old boy has it?) he has none of the other symptoms.
I'm not saying your son doesn't have ASD. But I would wouldn't be taking their word as gospel that's for sure.
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08-10-2015 17:56 #26
My sister had some concerns raised about my nephew, by the swimming teacher and someone else. Day care didn't say anything. When he started kinder she asked them to keep an eye out for anything amiss. Within a week they called it and they asked for a meeting and said they suspected ASD.
I didn't believe it. I saw nothing but a normal 4yo boy. Then I went and volunteered at the kinder one day and I saw it. It was wasn't till I saw him around his peers it stood out. I know it's not what you want to hear, I'm just saying keep an open mind about it.
Definitely have a meeting and talk to them. Just knows he may not be being targeted, I often get told when they have had to speak to DD1 at care. It's about making sure we're on the same page. Sometimes I might feel like they don't know sh@t, but sometimes they have a valid point and I need to reevaluate something. Today I got told that DD keeps letting other girls try on her clothes, so I will have a chat to her tonight about that. They also said she seems tired and flat and asked said they don't think she's getting enough sleep. She's not but short of drugging her I don't think I can fix it.
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08-10-2015 18:59 #27
While I agree with the sentiment of the rest of your post I really struggle when this is the only indicator.
08-10-2015 19:23 #28
No I didn't mean it like that I meant that if he's having a few melt downs and they have addressed it with her.
Then maybe she should have a chat with them and find out what's going on.
She also said that they are blaming him or it seems like they think it's his fault he got bitten.
08-10-2015 19:24 #29
A few melt downs a day is really not normal behaviour and may mean there is an issue
08-10-2015 19:31 #30
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