I can only go off what you have written.
A 4 year old losing it over a teacher not getting him paper (when he didn't ask for it) signals a bigger issue to me.
I never said you said that. Again, I'm basing it off the info provided, not his whole life.
And, as you said, daycare haven't mentioned it before- that doesn't mean it's not happening.
I agree that they shouldn't have mentioned it so casually, but maybe they felt it was the best way? Perhaps they have mentioned ASD to other parents and they have freaked?
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08-10-2015 13:38 #14
Not to mention that he has no other markers for ASD. You can't just pick one thing and go 'ooh look he may have autism' it's a bit ridiculous.
08-10-2015 13:39 #15
It doesn't signal any bigger issues for me @SAgirl if that gives you any comfort. My son was the sort of kid who expected people to fetch and carry for him and when he started at a Montessori preschool they refused and he used to have stand up fights with the teachers. But he learned in the end through very gentle techniques.
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08-10-2015 13:40 #16
If it were me, I'd be pulling him out. No matter whether you are being over sensitive or they are in fact targeting your son to 'prove' he's the issue not their supervision, you have lost trust in the centre.
I sent both of my kids to the same CC and with DD they were great but by the end of her stay the supervision was going down hill. By the time DS was about 4 the workers were getting old and obviously over the job and would just sit gas bagging not even watching. My son was getting bullied to a point I went to pick him up one day to find 4 or 5 boys literally bashing him up (kicking and punching him in the head, kicking him on the ground). The staff were in a circle talking and not even noticing and then the Director tried to minimise the incident. I pulled him out that day. My point is to listen to your gut. If you don't feel the centre is a good fit anymore, pull him out.
08-10-2015 13:46 #17
Again, I don't know his whole life, so have no idea if he has other markers. But FWIW, my brother only had one issue and was diagnosed with ASD at 6, and he is very obviously an ASD child now at 12.
I didn't pick one thing, I'm trusting the opinion of qualified carers. It doesn't hurt to get an assessment, and if it comes back as him not having ASD, then you know it is the daycare.
You also mentioned he had been to 3 in 3 years, but no reason- that was an indicator, to me, that he has problems with daycare.
And I did speak about other things- paper situation etc.
ETA: I do agree with the poster above that you have clearly lost trust here, and probably should pull him out.
08-10-2015 13:48 #18
Honestly no alarm bells ring for me when I read the situation with the paper plane and teacher etc.
He could have been tired or in a little bit of a mood, he's 4, it happens.
If it was a constant thing I could understand some cause for concern but they have never mentioned anything before right?
I would ask for a meeting, so they could explain exactly what their concerns are and what they see in his behaviour that indicates ASD.
If you don't feel they are going about things the right way, perhaps look at starting fresh at a different centre next year.
08-10-2015 13:53 #19
OP, I would outright as the director for clarification on her comment.
08-10-2015 13:54 #20
@SAgirl- I'm only giving my opinion. My first post said "if" and "based purely on this"... no parent wants to hear that their kid might have an issue- even if they suspect it. And, as I said, I don't recall your other post, but daycares get a lot of crap, and the majority are doing things the best way they can.
Again, it doesn't hurt to get an assessment- you said he sees a psych? Ask them if they have noticed signs.
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