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    Well then take some time off work to go to your appointment. Can you leave 1/2 hr early one day? Or make early morning appointments when you know he has slept and does not need a nap yet.

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    I can't take time off work weekly. Im only there 3 days & im busy enough as it is. I start work at 8.30am & the psychs close dont see patients earlier than that & i cant get back in time on public transport if i go further.

    Ill have to keep looking for someone that does weekend appointments

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    Sorry if this has been said but can you speak to your Ds's daycare and book him in for an extra day? Make that day specifically for your ongoing appointments?

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    You don't have to go weekly though. You can do fortnightly/monthly. Also look into occasional care? You can drop your DS off for a few hours for your appointment. I'm not sure what else to suggest. I'm from Bris and I do not think many or any psychs work on weekends/nights. Possibly public if they are connected to the hospital?

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    Its a bit silly if they don't work weekends/evenings, i dont know what people are supposed to do!

    I can talk to daycare but they are pretty full, i dont think they'll be able to fit him in. We cant afford it anyway, to pay for a day at daycare when i have the day off.

    Ill talk to dh on the weekend & keep looking for psychs that do weekends/evenings & if i cant find anyone i guess ill just keep doing what im doing. The mental health system in this country is a joke. Ive been asking for help since i was 12 weeks pregnant, no-one cares, so i might as well just give up. No wonder there are so many tragedies when this is how post partum women are treated.

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    I had a thought - try hiring a babysitter. Will be cheaper than childcare and your DS will be at home.

    ETA. Unfortunately pretty much every medical specialist works 'office' hours in the private sector.
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    Im prepared to but how do i pay for it? An extra day childcare fees, plus the cost of the psych, plus the cost of public transport or the taxi to get there. We cant afford that regularly.

    Dh is supportive but hes also been made redundant 3 times in the last 4 years. His industry is completely decimated thanks to the government. I cant risk him losing his job again by constantly taking time off.

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    If you have sick leave you can use that to attend your appointment as the Psych will give you a medical certificate.

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    Quote Originally Posted by heartstringz View Post
    Its a bit silly if they don't work weekends/evenings, i dont know what people are supposed to do!

    I can talk to daycare but they are pretty full, i dont think they'll be able to fit him in. We cant afford it anyway, to pay for a day at daycare when i have the day off.
    Tell the psych your timetabling issue. I know with my ob (yes different specialty) but she used to see me on her day she did caesars at 7am. I'd have my appt with her just before she prepped for surgery at the hospital instead of her rooms during the day. Even with any other appts I have had this year, I have taken both kids with me or they have scheduled it before or after work. The mater in bris scheduled my ante natal mental health check with my growth scan so I could do both at the same time.

    Also talk to your daycare- they will take your son in if you need medical treatment. They always keep 1-2 spots free or will go over their numbers in an emergency.

    Use a babysitter if that's cheaper than daycare. Or as @Albert01 said, you need to decide what's more important. A 5-6pm appt with a psych is better for you long term than not going cos your ds needs his wind down. YOU are important. YOUR needs are important. YOUR health is paramount. Tell your dh to get home earlier on a certain day and put yourself first.

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    You're doing that thing again. Don't tell yourself you may as well give up because then you probably will.

    You are worth it. You are worth it.

    I've been trying to find help for years now. I understand how frustrating it is and how helpless you must feel.

    But you have to stop throwing up roadblocks, Hun.

    If you take DS to an appointment and he screams through it, and your anxiety peaks, guess what? It's only an hour. And if the result is you getting the meds you need, then surely it's worth enduring. You are paying them money - they have been around worse than a screaming baby I'm sure. They are professionals who understand that we can't all drop everything.

    Or go to one of those 6pm appointments. Accept that your routine will be thrown out for a night or two. It's worth it.

    Can you borrow some money off your mortgage? Or get a Centrelink advance? Failing that, can you use sick leave? Do you have private health? My PHI significantly diminished the costs of my therapy. If you have an established psych will she bulk bill one appointment for you?

    The small speed bumps are stopping you from regarding the bigger picture. Your life doesn't have to be like this.

    And I am going to ask you a tough question here, right out of the mouth of Dr Phil: 'what's your pay off'? What's in it for you to consistently decide it's too hard?

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