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    Default Wwyd: giving up seat on bus

    What would you do?

    There's a lady standing up on the crowded bus with a bit of a pot belly. Could be pregnant, could just have a beer belly.

    Do you offer the lady the seat? Or (if the lady is pregnant) is it her responsibility to request a seat?

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    Id probably offer her the seat. Pregnant or not its no biggie.

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    Tough one. My bestie called me in tears one day because another woman had offered her a seat on the bus thinking she was pregnant. She was too embarrassed to say that she just had a flabby belly, so she took the seat. But it was a real blow to her self esteem.

    So I think if it wasn't an obviously pregnant belly, I wouldn't offer, in case I ended up really offending them.

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    I wouldn't offer someone with a bit of a pot a seat. If I knew then yes otherwise I'd be worried of offending her.

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    Default Wwyd: giving up seat on bus

    I'm very obviously heavily pregnant and nobody offers me the designated front seats when I catch the shuttle bus to the cbd to get to hospital *sigh* so no, I probably wouldn't risk it either, unless it was obvious she was struggling. It's a dying art to show courtesy these days.

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    Yeah this is hard. I'd be so mortified if someone offered me a seat thinking I was pregnant when I wasn't! Not to mention a huge hit to my body image. So I think unless you're really really sure it's probably best not to offer just in case. I'd keep an eye out though to see if the lady was throwing dirty looks around like she wanted a seat and maybe then offer 😜

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    Default Wwyd: giving up seat on bus

    This is why if you're pregnant you need to wear a bump on board pin!

    That said. When we moved to London I was visibly pregnant plus wearing my pin and people sitting in the priority seats constantly pretended they didn't see me. I'd wait a minute to see if anybody offered and if not I told the person in the priority seat (as long as not elderly or pregnant) to get the f**k up (exactly like that as well πŸ˜‰). I got over pretty quickly people not being courteous, especially once DH told me off for not saying something, pointing out if there was a sudden stop and I got knocked over.

    A bit of a pot I probably wouldn't outright offer but I'd make myself open to eye contact so she could signal she wanted the seat if she was pregnant, especially if in a priority seat.

    Eta: I did have an old lady tell me off about not offering my seat to a pregnant lady when I was pregnant as well once!

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    Nope, I would only offer to a visible pregnant person.

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    I'd probably offer if she was obviously pregnant or just looked like she was struggling.

    I was on a packed train with buisness people and a few school students when I was heavily pregnant.. All the people dressed up for work avoided eye contact.. A young school boy got up and offered his seat. I took it & was so grateful! It really is a dying art!

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    If only offer is she was obviously pregnant. I've had a friend been mistaken for pregnant and it destroyed her self esteem.


 

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