Does anyone have any tips/experience with violent behaviour in a 3yo and how to deal with it?? Is it normal behaviour?
I.e kicking walls, throwing toys, punching dogs, lying on top of cat, hit me once and his new sister once. He has also started screaming at the top of his lungs all the time. It's so draining to be honest, we have tried time out, yelling, speaking gently and calmly and sticker reward for good behaviour. Any other ideas?? 😔
Hoping someone can tell me it's a phase and he will grow out of it, he's such a sweet and funny boy otherwise.
Eta. We've just had a baby so I'm aware this is probably not helping, but this behaviour started about 2-3 weeks before she was born and now much worse since she arrived. We are making sure he is getting plenty of love and attention.
It also isn't in an aggressive manner it almost like he is hyper active and thinks it's super fun, he's not angry when he does it.
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26-09-2015 13:36 #1
Violent behaviour in toddler
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26-09-2015 16:18 #2Member
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Does he play outside much ?? Is he occupied maybe he's just trying to drive you crazy
26-09-2015 19:13 #3
Yes he is getting plenty of playtime inside and out!
26-09-2015 19:35 #4
Is he eating anything different? Some additives can cause hyperactivity/behavioural problems and is he getting enough sleep?
26-09-2015 20:16 #5
Interesting thread....I wonder what foods may cause this behaviour.... My son has tantrums...
26-09-2015 20:26 #6
26-09-2015 20:43 #7
Violent behaviour in toddler
These ones have been known to cause hyperactivity and behavioural problems and kids should avoid:
102, 104, 107, 110, 122, 123, 124, 127, 129, 132, 133, 142, 143, 151, 155, 160b (Annatto), 173, 174, 175
Preservatives and examples of foods they are in.
Cheese and cheese based products, dips, drinks.
200, 201, 202, 203
Benzoates - Soft drinks, cordials, medicine
210, 211, 212, 213, 216, 218
Sulphites - Dried fruits, cordials, juices and processed meats.
220, 221, 222, 223, 224, 225, 226, 227,228
Nitrates - Cured & processed meats (ham, bacon, hotdogs). They are prohibited for use in food for infants ( under 12 months). 249, 250, 251, 252
Proprionates - Bread and bakery products 280, 281, 282, 283
All – they don’t have numbers
Flavour Enhancers – Flavoured chips, corn chips, pop corn, flavoured savoury biscuits, instant noodle sachets, vegetable spreads,
620-625 Glutames inc MSG
627 Disodium Guanylate
631 Disodium Inosinate
Hydrolysed Vegetable Protein (HVP)
26-09-2015 21:53 #8
My DS is 3.5 and I have a 10 week old. Is he bored? Does he have excess energy? My DS improved out of sight with a trampoline and cutting down tv. I also think it's the age, 3 sucks! Everything is an argument and I found DS pretty aggressive. I truly believe the trampoline has helped and giving him loads of time outside.
26-09-2015 22:23 #9
To me it sounds like he is experiencing some new emotions (related to his new sibling) and this is the way he is expressing them. I'm not saying he doesn't like the new baby but he might just be feeling a whole heap of big feelings that he can't explain or make sense of.
You might find this article interesting
26-09-2015 23:35 #10
It sounds like he might be sensing your weakness (late pregnancy and now a newborn attached to you) and exploiting it for all its worth, cheeky little thing! My DD was just about to turn 3 when DS came along and she did the same thing. For her it was more cheeky things and not doing as she was told rather than the physical stuff your DS is doing. But given you said he's not angry when he does it, it sounds like boundary pushing.
I don't really have much advice though, my DD got over it once she got used to DS being around and I wasn't as glued to the couch feeding him. All you can really do is be as consistent as possible with your discipline technique and ride it out.
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