Egg Donation in South Africa #11

[ECM1981]

@Jennski i arrive on the 14th Nov and leave on the 21st Nov. Would love to meet up if our times match up! I will be without my hubby this time so would live company. I wil pm you if our dates match up?

[JulieMalooley]

Unfortunately i didnt get much time with her. The transfer was quick. But i remember thinking how nice it was to have her so my transfer, she had that 'womans touch' with showing compassion. And she gave me a printout of the transfer ultrasound which was n8ce and i didnt get that the first time, but possibly because CFC didnt so it then. I would feelvery confident if she was my normal dr. How are you going with the donor process?

I didn't get one first time either but did last time. Maybe it IS new.

[Tahli]

@Jennski I'm in CT on the 1st and 2nd Nov.
@Outoftime I had email communication with Dr M and she seemed really really lovely and caring. However I chose to go with Dr W due to his seniority.

[Hopeful1975]

I had Dr M and cannot recommend her enough - caring, straightforward and really wants you to succeed

[Lisaxxx]

@Jennski I'm in CT on the 1st and 2nd Nov.
@Outoftime I had email communication with Dr M and she seemed really really lovely and caring. However I chose to go with Dr W due to his seniority.

Hi Tahli,
I had Dr W as well, I felt he went over and beyond for me. I think any of the doctors there though would be good.

[ECM1981]

I didn't get one first time either but did last time. Maybe it IS new.

I cried when they gave it to me! Happy crying. It was a nice touch! Not many people get to see themselves as embryos! It will be great to show your babies when they are older

[BB4Me]

Congratulations JulieMalooley on the twins.
Very exciting Ferngirl reaching 10wks. I'm going to get progesterone in oil from an australian chemist that charges $100 for 10 doses which will be cheaper than the crinone by the sounds of it.
Tahli I use baby aspirin, I went to the chemist and asked for it. I don't remember the brand. Concentration is 100mg per tablet from memory. The same aspirin that people with high cholesterol use to thin their blood.

[Tahli]

Thanks BB4Me. I'm going to buy some tomorrow.

[Gen72]

Hi folks I’m sorry for the length of our post, once I got started it was rather cathartic and I found it hard to truncate it. I’ve also posted to all three forums so I hope that isn’t the wrong thing to do.

We’re new to the egg donor forums, though after spending the enormous amount of time we have stalking/reading the Greece, Czech Republic & South African DE forums reading all the amazing stories, I almost feel like I know some of you, if not just your stories. It certainly has been a roller coaster of a read….we’ve shed a few tears with your disappointments and felt the elation with the news of your BFP’s and the births of your babies.

After not a terribly long (compared to some), but rather intense IVF journey, my partner and I have been advised by our specialist to seek out a younger donor to increase our chances of successfully bringing a baby or two into our lives.

As we’ve read, many of you have made the decision to go O/S for DE with great success, some of you are either embarking on your journey in the near future for the first time or for the second and I guess some of you are still grappling with the decision like us.

We are about to transfer a frozen donor egg embryo from my sister, it isn’t great quality and Warren doesn’t seem to think that it will grow to day 5 once we thaw it. The quality of this embryo and my sisters low AMH (1.6-less than mine) is the main reason it was recommended that we don’t pursue another cycle with my sister. This was a savage blow as she was always our back up plan, so needless to say, ‘things have turned to custard!’

During this FET cycle we’ve both been taking Warren’s ‘magic cocktail’ of supplements and we need to decide by CD20 whether or not to start down reg for a fresh cycle should this FET not have a positive outcome. Although it has been strongly advised that we don’t bother and save our money for a ‘holiday’, we are certainly torn between giving it ‘one more shot’ with our new FS Warren or heeding the advice. If we do go ahead with one more fresh cycle using OE it will certainly be our last and it may possibly be the end of the road for us.

My heart gets heavy and the tears come easily at the thought of giving up…so I know it can’t be the end of our journey. But I also don’t want to ruin us financially or mentally as we also need to finish renovating our house so we have somewhere to live and my partner works away and he’d like to be able to someday come home to be a Dad should we be lucky enough to have children (until we’ve finished IVF and renovated he can’t or none of this will be possible).

So I guess I’d like to ask some questions….

1. What was your pivotal moment when you gave up on your OE and decided to use DE?
2. Did any of you try for DE in Australia? And how did you go about it?
3. How did you make your choice on which country to go for DE? And which clinic?
4. Have you used more than one O/S clinic in more than one country?
5. If you are patient of Warren’s is there a clinic he prefers to deal with?
6. Will/does Warren test for all immune issues automatically and then use the immune protocol?

Thanks for listening/reading

[Outoftime]

Unfortunately i didnt get much time with her. The transfer was quick. But i remember thinking how nice it was to have her so my transfer, she had that 'womans touch' with showing compassion. And she gave me a printout of the transfer ultrasound which was n8ce and i didnt get that the first time, but possibly because CFC didnt so it then. I would feelvery confident if she was my normal dr. How are you going with the donor process?

Thanks @ECM1981. Donor process is going very slowly. Finding it hard to connect with any. Have started emailing our criteria and photos of me to a couple of agencies to see if they see someone that is similar to me and meets the criteria. This weekend we get serious. I have registered with the main agents named in these threads and am trying to not focus on the agent but the donors as you all suggest. Feels like we're shopping for a new car with specific add ons.