I have a lot of thinking to do.
We had another argument last night and this morning. We mostly argue because he won't let me talk. It's highly frustrating. He flips his lid at the smallest things.
He says me and the kids treat him like sh1t.
He just kept saying "my house, my rules"
After a while he said he would back off from the discipline and see how I go ( thinks I won't cope).
Whoever said he was controlling, you're right. Even he knows this too.
I am in the middle of writing him a letter. He isn't at work today but he's getting new tyres so when he gets home we are going out and lll talk to him and get him to read his letter.
I get so angry at him when he won't listen. Basically it's his way or the highway.
I told him I want a calm, peaceful home. Not screaming matches everyday. I said if he isn't willing to change or at least try. And isn't willing to listen me and the kids will be living somewhere else. Whether that's permanently or a break from each other for a few weeks/months while we work things out from a distance I don't know. I told him ( though he knows) the kids have been through enough these past few years and I am working at bettering myself. I refuse to put up with crap anymore.
I'll let you know what happens once he reads the letter...
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17-09-2015 08:08 #41
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17-09-2015 08:26 #42
I think that is the most sensible, self reflective post you have ever written.
Good for you.
17-09-2015 09:08 #43Senior Member
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Sounds like an absolutely brilliant plan. You are so strong and you can do this!
We'll all be cheering you on xx
17-09-2015 09:11 #44
Good on you!
17-09-2015 09:21 #45
I spoke to him on the phone briefly. He rang about other things..
He ended up saying we both shouldn't be arguing like that in front of the kids. We both apologised. Not saying it's all done and dusted but at least he's acknowledged we shouldn't be having screaming matches like we have.
He still isn't home. We are going out for lunch. I'll bring a few things up.
17-09-2015 11:11 #46
It's a start. Hope he continues to think about it all.
17-09-2015 21:13 #47-
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Hey Hun it seems like you are making progress which is great to hear
That being said the "after a while" comment made me wonder... Was the conversation prolonged... Did it go for ages?
- If so I'm not sure I get it.. Were you clear enough about your requirements? The initial conversation (IMO) doesn't need to go anymore than 30 seconds ("do not yell at my kids and do not call them names or you're outta here")
Regardless you're making moves in the right direction so hats off to you
18-09-2015 20:08 #48
Things are better... Well for now.
We had a talk. He knows he shouldn't of said that and he says I love your kids I'm sorry I was angry.
He agree he would back off for a bit while it comes discipline. He'll let me discipline but will support me. I told him he overreacts at small things.
Well it's school holidays now so we will see how everything goes.
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