Look, don't let him make you feel that his actions are ok, they are not, you know this, that's why you have reached out. Your mantra needs to be it is not ok.
If you don't sort this situation for your kids, they will be damaged and a few years down the track, potentially, this is how your children could be parenting your grandchildren.
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16-09-2015 19:57 #21
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16-09-2015 20:01 #23
I see history repeating itself. You were abused by your step mother and now your children are being abused by their step father. If he doesn't change then even if you don't want to leave you might have to. The kids would already have fragile self esteem.
He also sounds controlling towards you. Does he work?
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16-09-2015 20:04 #24
Another thing I forgot, I have told him several times to back off. I've said I will do the discipining and he can back me up/support me. Then he says " fine I won't help! You can do it all on your own" " I won't take your kids to school or out" " I'll go out every night and leave you to deal with them!"
He makes out as though they're such terrible kids! They aren't perfect. But if he stopped yelling and actuslly started listening to them he would realise they're good, smart kids. One or two need more direction than others.
I feel as though I don't have a say in how my kids are raised/disciplined.
16-09-2015 20:06 #25
Yeah he works part time.
16-09-2015 20:09 #26
It just sounds like your back at square one. Sounds like the same situations you used to post about before you left their dad. It makes me sad for them and you.
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16-09-2015 20:09 #28
Where on earth is your voice for your kids. Protect them for heavens sake. I can guarantee by what you have written all 4 will be better off without him in their lives. Please take action it's totally not on at all.
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16-09-2015 20:10 #29
Please be an advocate for your kids as others have said. Recognise the mistakes of the past and promise that you will always have your children's best interests at heart. That doesn't mean being a perfect mum, none of us are. But you are the adult. Speak up for them bc they can't!
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