My husband and I took our 2 year old to the park today. Some of the equipment is quite high with no rails ( designed for older kids) so we kept a close eye on her. We let her explore but were cautious when she was near the edge ( doesn't understand heights and falling yet)
We noticed other parents didn't pay attention at all and just let their kids roam around; in fact they were so wrapped up in conversation I doubt they even knew where their kids were. Some kids were just walking and climbing all over the place.
Is this the norm? Are we being helicopter parents or responsible parents ( by not letting her fall). We weren't by her side the entire time just when at the edge.
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11-09-2015 19:23 #1
Supervision at the park
11-09-2015 19:29 #2
I have a 2 year old and I generally watch her from a distance but don't hover or worry when she's near edges or up high. She's the youngest of 4 and has been climbing since she was very young. She does gymbaroo and has exceptionally good balance. So I'm not fussed much at playgrounds and would probably be one of the parents you observed today.
In short, depends on the kids and the family they come from. I'm more watchful to make sure she doesn't just spontaneously whack another child then worrying about her falling off something.
11-09-2015 19:31 #3
And just to add you say they "weren't watching at all". I've been going to playgrounds for 10 years with my kids and have seen varying degrees of supervision. In my experience as soon as a kid needs their parent they are right there beside them.
11-09-2015 19:34 #4
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11-09-2015 19:38 #6
I was at the park today sitting at a table with friends, probably 20 or so metres away, some of us had our backs to the playground, the others were facing. If any of the kids needed something the mums facing the playground give a nudge.
To answer your question, no, I don't hover, I'll help out if they ask, but otherwise I leave them to it. Falling, stumbling etc is part of learning.
11-09-2015 19:38 #7
I would have been the mum sitting having a chat. I don't need to be right there most of the time unless it's super busy. I suppose we all take different risk assessments and have different approaches to learning/play/exploring experiences.
Not to say one style of parenting is better than another.
11-09-2015 19:38 #8Senior Member
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My children are all excellent climbers and from an early age. It actually freaks me out initially but now we are familiar with our playground and so are my children. I often meet friends there and we chat and socialise with minimal supervision. But then many times it's just me and the children there together and I am close by because I play with her and encourage etc but other times people wouldn't know which parent belongs to which child. BUT I realise every child, and the confidence that the parent has with their ability to stay safe is different.
11-09-2015 19:40 #9
Supervision at the park
I always stand close to DS who is nearly 3 when he is up on the climbing stuff. When I haven't been standing close before he has been pushed off, luckily it was onto sand and although it hurt him a lot there was no serious damage, second time he tripped and cut all his face up.
I'm sure 99% of the time he'll be fine but I would feel absolutely awful if he broke something or worse because I wasn't standing close enough.
Whenever I go to play dates all other mothers are the same as the ones you described, stand there chatting and don't pay any attention to them. They've laughed at me once because I "hover". Not nastily but sort of saying "once you have your second you won't hover so much"
11-09-2015 19:43 #10
Is it your first child? I hovered all the time with my first. Now with my 3rd, I am off having a chat & keeping a watch from a distance! You learn to let go a bit, & let them explore on their own. I think it's healthy for them. Sometimes I wish I hadnt been so 'close by' with my first, & had given her the opportunity to 'be' without me!
ETA:Not to say that there is anything wrong with being close by,if that is what you prefer. I also really look back & treasure that time with 1 child where I could be there all the time with her!
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