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    Default Hitting and other issues

    Hi all, just a few concerns for my 3 year old boy..... Wondering if any other parents have the same or similar issue.

    1- hitting....this is a new thing, he does it when his frustrated and sometimes when his happy, mostly frustrated.

    2- some words are not clear...... We talk to our son in 2 languages, in English he mumbles and does not make more the 4 word sentence in 1 hit. And then if you ask him something he starts mumbling. But he understands everything in both languages.

    3- concentration....I think his way too busy in his mind. He can watch TV and the iPad for a long time however when it comes to being outside he has a short attention span, evening crafts or painting he will focus on it for around 20min. Ideas?

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    1) walk away when he hits. Tell him you won't stay there to be hit, it hurts and you don't like it. We have a no hitting in the house rule...no one hits.
    2) I think that's normal for kids who are learning two languages but your GP could give you a referral to a speech therapist.
    3) 20 minutes is a normal concentration span for a 3 year old.

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    20 minutes is great for a 3 year old! I can't even concentrate for that long (thank you internet for ruining my brain)
    I'm sure I read once about bilingual children seemingly taking longer to start talking, but when it finally kicks in they hit the ground running. But I have no personal experience with this, I'm sure other people can give you much better advice

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    1) Pretty normal. I take a 2-fold approach to unacceptable behaviour. Use "I" statements and walk away as a PP suggested. e.g. "I won't let you hit me." "I don't want to stay here when you hit" etc. At other times, when everyone's calm, discuss helpful/positive ways to deal with frustration (e.g. slow breaths, a calm toy/jar, cuddling you/toys, going to calm corner, runnig around outside...whatever might help him).

    2) If his language development is age-appropriate in at least one language, I wouldn't be worried.

    3) 20 minutes is a pretty long concentration span for a 3 year old

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    Thank you very much....I've walked away when he hits but he has a big tantrum, not sure if it could be anything worse. Usually his an angel.


 

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