So the new term medical professionals are using for colic now is purple crying but essentially it describes the same thing- periods of intense crying, often inconsolable that gradually gets worse until it peaks and resolves at 3-4 months.
My ds2 is 7 weeks and for past 4-5 weeks has had predicable periods of the day where he screams his lungs out and I can't do anything to calm him down. At first I was thinking it was trapped wind and abdominal pain and I've always thought the idea that colicky babies are not in pain is rubbish. However I now think there may be some truth to that as ds2 is so routine with when he cries and he quickly becomes absolutely hysterical but can calm down in an instant if distracted enough before starting again a few moments later.
I'm really asking whether anyone ha been through this and how do you cope mentally? I've come to accept there is nothing I can do to prevent the episodes (have tried infants friend, changing my diet, all sorts of adjustments to breast feeding and none have helped at all) and that he will grow out of it. However it's getting really hard as the worst time for him is 5-8pm and that's when I need to spend time with ds1 who is 20 months giving him dinner etc.
Any tips for settling or calming are greatly appreciated but really I am after advice on how to cope with it. I'm at the point where I dread going home if I'm out in the afternoon as I know the crying will start as soon as we get home. If he was my only baby I would just go out for walks etc but it's hard with 2. Also it's such an ordeal as he won't go in the pushchair so I have to carry him everywhere. I don't think it's reflux or anything medical as he doesn't have all the symptoms of reflux and why would he have the episodes like clockwork at same time each day?
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13-08-2015 17:21 #1
Coping with colic/purple crying
13-08-2015 17:33 #2
My ds was like this. Sometimes inconsoliable from 2pm to 11pm! I just did what I could. Dh took over the evening chores (dinner etc) and I perfected eating with onr hand and bfing ds and walking around the house. It improved by 4.5-5 months and just after 3 months we started implementing a nighttime ritual (play bath milk bed).
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13-08-2015 18:10 #3
Coping with colic/purple crying
Try using a carrier during these spells of crying. Also it is definitely feasible to be walking the streets at 5-7pm to calm Bub down. I have in occ put both girls in the pram to take a walk as dd2 was inconsolable as a baby. Dd1 got her easy dinner in the pram. Sometimes I bathed them early then gave the toddler dinner in the pram as we walked. Other times I came home, bathed both then went straight back for my walk.
You just got to do what you have to do.
Eta. Wear headphones when the crying gets too overwhelming.
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13-08-2015 18:24 #4
I found it was largely tiredness with my bub. A carrier helped lots cause he could fall asleep on me while I still got stuff done. Xox
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13-08-2015 19:05 #5
Thanks for the tips. The carrier def helps when I'm out but in the house it doesn't stop the screaming. The only thing I've found to do is to distract him so changing positions frequently, changing nappy etc so I find the carrier doesn't really calm him down but I def use it when I need to do things and just put up with the crying. I think if I was on my own I would try to drown out the crying but I'm getting stressed worrying about the crying bothering my toddler and affecting him. He's been very good but sometimes he does cling to my legs and seems to get frustrated with the baby crying. Bring on 3-4 months!
14-08-2015 20:58 #6Member
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I really feel for you. I have only had one episode of really bad wind with my DS (and was dreading colic), he cried for 2 hours in the middle of the night. I just had to walk round the house changing positions which would settle him for a while until eventually he fell asleep. As you have mentioned Infants Friend, also Gripe Water. It's just a case of finding what works best for you. Good luck with it all.
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14-08-2015 21:22 #7Member
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Brauers Colic Relief - please try it. Worked for my son when nothing else (ie gripe water etc) did.
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