Today I took my 14 month old DS to my cousins baby shower which was at an auditorium. I was sitting at a table with an aunt who had a 2 year old running around screaming/crying/touching everything (including a powerpoint) he was so so cranky obviously just needed to go home and nap (mum said he missed his nap to be there). They ended up leaving after 2 hours.
There were 6 other women at my table (all aunts 1 was the original woman's SIL the other was a cousin who takes the boy at her FDC once a week). After they left they were basically saying how she isn't doing the whole parenting gig right, needs to be firm with son, needs routine and discipline etc. then they brought up how at home she is so lax with him he's always hurting himself because she lets him run free.
I felt soooo uncomfortable then they asked me for my opinion... My opinion on how she's parenting!!! All I saw was a little lady who was about to have a mental breakdown and really needed someone to hug her.
They then proceeded to tell me that she could really take a leaf out of my book because DS was so well behaved, eating his food and not crying. They commented on how I was so calm and confident. They just got me on a bloody good day I can guarantee we are not always like this!
Agh anyway WWYD?
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02-08-2015 19:51 #1
02-08-2015 19:55 #2
Me? I'd just nod and say with "you got me on a good day, that's normally me". Then I would change the conversation.
02-08-2015 19:59 #3Senior Member
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I would have stuck up for her, and asked them to mind their own business. Don't think for a second they wouldn't say the same about you. All toddlers go thru this stage sooner or later. Next time nip that kind of judgy convo in the bud. Im sure they would have been perfect parents themselves.. Not.
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02-08-2015 20:02 #4
Yep this ^
People often comment on how well behaved my kids are and how calm I am... my response is usually "its only because there are witnesses. Its never like this at home". The witness comment shocks a few people lol.
I would have said my usual comment above then added I think the mum is doing a fantastic job and asked judgy mcjudgy mums hows the view from up on their pedestal.
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02-08-2015 20:04 #5
I certainly wouldn't weigh in with my opinion! I think it's weak that they all openly criticised her parenting skills, then tried to get you to put crap on her too!
All I would say is that I felt for her and that most 2 year olds are really hard work.
02-08-2015 20:07 #6Senior Member
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Meh. I probably would have said that you don't know her enough to comment, and leave it at that.
Maybe the mum does need to give her child more discipline and routine. If you don't know her, I wouldn't have bothered getting all defensive just for the sake of it.
02-08-2015 20:11 #7
I would tell them to get the sticks out of their a$$es.
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02-08-2015 20:58 #8
Meh I get tons of compliment at how well behaved DS is. He can sit on a chair for hours quietly reading books. And he's 2.
Do I have anything to do with this amazing achievement?! Probably 0.01%?!
Some kids are just the quiet type while other are hyper dynamic.
So I would have just said that. Along with the whole bad day happens to everyone
02-08-2015 22:57 #9
I feel like I should have said more! I just did the whole "everyone thinks they know how to parent but she's the only one who knows how to parent her son so I don't really have anything to say".
Thank you for your responses :-)
02-08-2015 23:31 #10
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