How do you do it?
DD is 2 weeks old and DS is 3.5. At the moment I hsve DH at home for another 2 weeks.
Starting to worry about how I will handle my days between sleep deprivation, breastfeeding, expressing, organising DS etc...
What are other people's concerns? Ideas? Tips to save our sanity? How does your day look? What routines do you have?
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27-07-2015 09:10 #1
Mums with a newborn and a toddler unite!
27-07-2015 09:30 #2Senior Member
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Subbing!! I'm going to be in this position next year
27-07-2015 09:47 #3
My ds2 is 5 weeks old and ds1 is 20 months. Today is my first day on my own as I was lucky to have my mum come to stay for a month then dh had another week off. I was completely terrified at first but slowly I've started to think I will manage!
The hardest parts for me are trying to manage a colicky newborn that needs holding ALL the time and doing things with toddler such as giving him breakfast, bath etc. the best advice I can give so far is to use a baby carrier or sling so you can have your hands free. My newborn spends most of his time in the house in a ringsling then when I'm out he's in my ergo or pushchair if he'll go in it.
I think one thing I've realised is that I won't be going out as much as I used to. I'll try to still go to toddler groups for my older boy but we will have to spend more time in the house playing as is so hard to get out the house and stressful too!
I'm hoping I'll get into a routine soon but it is hard! Good luck.
27-07-2015 12:28 #4
DS is just over 2yo and I have a 2mo.
Mostly it's been very easy because Bub sleeps sooooo much. I rely a lot on my toddler to help out and he loves it. He just does whatever I ask him to (eg giving me a wipe or a nappy when changing the nappy).
There has been no jealousy yet but Im sure it will come.
My only tip is to baby wear extensively. It makes everything so easy. At newborn stage your routine with toddler will be the same as before #2.
Not sure what happens when baby starts moving though! 😁
27-07-2015 12:33 #5
In terms of routine, I usually get up and sort the kids out then out the door by 9am. We are out all morning either to the zoo, to the library, to the park etc.
I find it stressful to get both kids and I ready to go but once we are out it is much easier than being at home. DS is entertain whatever we do, I get some fresh hair which helps a lot with tiredness and baby sleeps in pram or carrier. We come home for lunch and then I get cuddles and rest with the baby while toddler nap.
Late afternoon we go to the park again and/or cook dinner.
Best part of the day is def after lunch when I get to lie down and cuddle with the baby ❤️
27-07-2015 12:45 #6
I'm sort of mostly out the other side of this but soon to be thrust back in. I now have a 2.5 year old and a nearly 10 month old and am 12 and a bit weeks pregnant.
I honestly just had the plan of do what we need to do to get through the day.
Some days are great and you feel like super mum. Baby sleeps, big one helps and you get the house cleaned, washing done, dinner prepped by 3 and quality one on one time don't with each kids.
Other days - well the kids eat and are alive when DH gets home at 4 so I'm counting that as a win 😏
10 months on that's still my motto. You will get the hang of things. I actually found it better when DH went back to work so I could get an idea of reality would be like rather than the constant holiday feeling while he was home.
You'll be fine -- now remind me in this in 5 months when I'm freaking out about being home with all 3 of them on my own...
27-07-2015 12:49 #7
I've done it twice and am about to do it for a 3rd time.
number 1 was 19 months when number 2 was born
number 2 was 22 months when number 3 was born
number 3 will be 2.5yrs when number 4 is born
So I'll be joining you again shortly. I have coped fine with it all so far, but my #3 is definitely my most difficult toddler, so this could be interesting.
27-07-2015 13:07 #8
Hi All - I've got a 3.5yr old DS and an 8 week DD.
I'm finding it ok so far but DS has been sick on & off since the week before DD arrived. I think I've had less sleep due to him than from the baby.
What I really miss is the chance to have a nap if I need too during the day - with DS there is no chance.
I'm also finding it a bit different as DD is a completely different baby personality wise and has reflux & suspected CMSPI so having to deal with extra screaming, medications and dietary changes has been a bit of adjusting too. I kind of expected her to be exactly like DS.
Those of you that have a carrier - what do you recommend? I currently have a stretchy type wrap but want to get something more structured - like an ergo or something.
27-07-2015 13:11 #9
Subbing as I have a 22 mo and a 6 week old. Still finding our feet most days!
27-07-2015 13:27 #10
Coming out of the fog of this now as my 2 are (almost) 6 months and (almost) 20 months, seems like a blur the last 6 months I just did whatever worked and tried to get out for a walk whenever I could. My toddler is finally at an age she can go outside by herself and play and will occupy herself for an hour or two without needing me. They are both on strict routines for eating, napping and bedtimes only thing that has saved my sanity I think! Make sure you nap if you can, don't get. Caught up doing something or the time will widdle away and you'll miss nap time. I still occasionally nap especially when DH is away
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