I wouldn't be thrilled but know a couple of (quite paranoid) mums who have done this once or twice. I'd have to say something like "I'm hoping that was a once off cos you were trying to get him milk." I would want to make a point that it's not OK without getting stuck into him too much
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26-07-2015 19:36 #41Senior Member
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26-07-2015 19:42 #42
At my DH it would be a 4 + a straight talk about what other and better options are.
However at an exH it would be an easy 8
26-07-2015 23:20 #43
I wouldn't be too angry. Given the full back story I'd be pretty annoyed at him for not being prepared but I've actually done this myself on occasion- although the shops are less than a block away from my house, I don't think I'd get in a car and drive 10 minutes away. But I've left my sleeping 2 year old in the house while I went to the shop... To buy wine and chocolate (emergency wine and emergency chocolate, of course) I will get crucified for saying that on BH but in the actual real world, it's not so uncommon or shocking. Just wanted to put that out there for anyone reading this who is now afraid that child services will come knocking if you step outside the house once the sun goes down.
26-07-2015 23:32 #44
I know it's about risk assessment and we all have different levels of risk, so I see where you're coming from, but the risk vs reward for this scenario is far too heavily weighted towards high risk for teeny, tiny reward.
27-07-2015 00:08 #45
How angry would you be?
I wonder how important any of these things (milk, wine & chocolate etc) would become if something happened to a child being left home alone.. You would never forgive yourself. Life is too precious to take these huge risks. It makes me feel sick to my stomach thinking about it..
27-07-2015 00:26 #46
I really don't think that someone breaking into my house and stealing my kids in the 5 minutes I'm gone is a high risk.
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27-07-2015 01:09 #47
Harvs in this situation it's not cool. He knew DS was coming. He could have taken DS with him when he was awake. Once he's asleep you don't need milk anymore. I would be furious. As others have said especially since he's hypercritical of you.
27-07-2015 04:01 #48
Give him a new shirt you haven't washed and tell him you have as revenge.
Edit: Just read your update, way to use it as a teaching moment and take the higher ground. But do the shirt anyways.
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27-07-2015 06:49 #50
I would be very upset (9 or 10). Mostly I would be upset because he only has one child in his care - very easy to bundle up in the car/pram/arms to take around the corner. I also have a DH who works away a lot and have no choice but to take both kidswhich a total pain but the what ifs out weigh the desperation and for me there are no excuses.
Last week my 5 month old wouldn't settle late at night while I was on night duty so dh called a friend over to stay with our toddler (while she was asleep) while he brought DD2 up to me at work so I could feed her, I asked what he'd do if our friend couldn't have come over and he said he would've woken her and brought her too, no contemplation of leaving her alone which I am thankful of. You really need to be secure with the people your children are being cared by and I'm glad he saw how badly things could go when you pointed it out.
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