can you borrow the deposit amount she initially loaned you just to get the caveat removed and get off your backs?
what's your credit ratings like?
she definitely sounds controlling, I'd be very hesitant to move in with her.
another thought: is there anyway you could refinance? obtain a proper valuation and find out how much the house is worth. then borrow the amount she loaned you against the house?
she didn't buy the entire property for you did she?
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26-07-2015 10:14 #12Senior Member
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Wow, she doesn't sound like the type of person you should be living with. Sounds like she will control your lives. I am not sure how living with her would save you any money if you're living mortgage free? If you were renting I could understand but I am struggling to see how you'd save much money apart from utilities.
I am shocked that she's kept the caveat thing on. You'd get it removed if you took her to court for sure but I can imagine your husband probably wouldn't let you.
What a tough situation.
Can you sell it, move in with her for 1 week and then suddenly find the house of your dreams which you can buy caveat free? 😂😂
26-07-2015 11:15 #13
no definitely not was my first thought, and then further reading my second thought was that you would be mad for even considering it. She already has a huge hold over you and moving in with her would give her even more control.
26-07-2015 12:00 #14
I would say no we have been living with my mil for 5 months while house has been finished and al its done has made me get more annoyed at her for taking over things especially with our dd as she always wanted a daughter didn't have one and now thinks she has a second chance. If hubby is like mine he won't care that yours and kids lives are being inconvenienced and ruined
26-07-2015 12:29 #15Senior Member
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If your MIL lent the deposit, surely the caveat only applies to the amount she lent you...??
Seriously, if she is like this over something like you being able to borrow against the house YOU own, to buy a better house for your family, what do you imagine she would be like on a day to day basis...
You are probably better off selling the house the remove the caveat, renting for six months whilst you look, and then buy another house...
26-07-2015 12:52 #16
So in theory she could remove the caveat you could use the house as equity and get a new house you want.
But you can't because if her caveat so she wants you to move in with her - sounds very controlling
26-07-2015 13:33 #17
No way! DON'T DO IT!!
She won't remove the clause to help you out but is happy for you to live with her? Controlling!! No no no.
26-07-2015 13:40 #18Senior Member
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Just a quick one. In this scenario any interest against a loan used for a new home would definitely not be tax deductible. This is a common misconception, the deductibility of interest is based on what the loan is used for (the purpose). So even if the debt is secured against an investment property, it was used for a personal reason (a home) so the ATO will not offset that against rental income.
Couldn't not clarify that because I see it all the time!!!!
Ps I don't think I would be moving in with MIL if I were you either!!!
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26-07-2015 13:46 #19Senior Member
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The only person who's going to benefit from you moving in with her, is her. She's 75 years old (assumingly divorced or widowed), she would be incredibly lonely. She is probably embarrassed to admit the real reason why she wants you to move in, and that's for the company.
Given the financial power she already has over you, I would be hesitant to move in. Who's to say she isn't going to turn around and have special conditions when you buy the next house because she allowed you to stay with her for x period of time?
Don't..... Go...... There!
26-07-2015 13:58 #20
I agree she sounds controlling. I wouldnt move in does your dh realise you wont really be saving if you are already living mortgage free?
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