I am so sorry for you that he has done that! I tried to think of ANY situation being in that I would feel ok to pour oil on somebody for any reason let alone somebody that was crying and distraught, obviously I couldn't, the fact that he did such a low and disrespectful thing speaks volumes.
I understand you don't feel in the right position to leave just yet, but PLEASE start taking the next steps to get yourself in the best position, every single one of us owe it to ourselves to be leading a happy life. Until you are out of there do not forget how what he did has made you feel, you need that memory to motivate you right out the door.
Huge hugs Louise, what a disgrace he is.
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23-07-2015 22:21 #41
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23-07-2015 22:25 #42
Thinking of you x
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23-07-2015 22:26 #43
23-07-2015 22:29 #44
OMG. Who does that?!?!!
I understand not wanting to disrupt your DD, but are you sure you're safe? Maybe a lock on the spare room?
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23-07-2015 22:36 #45
What a bizarre and horrible thing for a person to do! Even without the back story of everything you told him tonight!
I hope you are ok Louise, you can do this xx
23-07-2015 22:41 #46
Oh Louise, that's awful. Not only did you pour your heart out to him and give him what supportive partners would find confronting and upsetting news, he then goes and pours oil over you!? The oil would have been enough, but I the back of your news that morning - WTF is wrong with him?
I agree, pack his things and change the locks when he's at work and leave his belongings on the front lawn.
Before that I would also be packing away all of your paperwork, putting aside money etc just incase his anise escalates and you need to get out of there quickly.
Your DD will have nothing but respect for you for doing what you're doing, think of how positive separating from him will be for her too.
23-07-2015 22:47 #47
Wow, what an odd thing to do! He sounds awful. I don't know the history but it sounds like you've been unhappy for a long time. Good on you for making the decision to end it, even if you can't take a big leap straight away. Is your DD aware of the way he treats you? I'm sure she would want you to be safe and happy, and she needs to be safe and happy too.
I'm glad to hear you're seeing a counseller but is there any way you can get an emergency appointment tomorrow? Also call a DV helpline, they will be well informed of everything you're entitled to financially and can assist with the practicalities of leaving an abusive relationship.
I really hope that getting free of this man will lift a huge weight off your shoulders and you're able to find a happy life.
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24-07-2015 12:16 #48
Does your daughter notice how unhappy you are? If I was her I'd be pretty understanding about the situation. My dad was horrible to my mum growing up. If she decided to leave him when I was in year 12, I would have been fine with it. If you feel like you can't handle another few months, leave now. Or at least start preparing to. You deserve better than this
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