Just after some opinions, we are due with #4 in October, we have a 6yo (2009) 5yo (2010) and 3yo (2012) - there will be a 3y 8 month gap between our 3yo and this bub. It took about 12 months for me to agree to a fourth but now I can't stop the feeling that I might like another bub after this little man, I'm not sure if I feel done yet. Maybe I will feel differently when this one is born? Anyone been in a similar situation? DH is happy either way....
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22-07-2015 10:28 #1
To stop at 4 or have another?
22-07-2015 14:17 #2Senior Member
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I felt the same after number 3. Didn't feel quiet "content". Luckily, we fell pregnant with number 4 & after having him I felt complete.
There are days that I sometimes think I would love another baby, but I have to stop being selfish & remind myself that I am 1 of the luckiest mums ever to have my 4 beautiful babies & that in order for me to give them the things they want & need & to be able to spend valuable time with each of them.. 4 is enough.
In saying this, this is only MY opinion & it's based on our financial situations etc.
Only you & your husband will know & can decide whether or not to continue adding to your family. But have this bub first & give yourself some time to adjust as a family of 6.. Then decide. Good luck with the birth of this bubby x
22-07-2015 15:59 #3Senior Member
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Wait until you've been through all the sleepless nights with number 4 while tending to the older 3 before you make you decision
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22-07-2015 16:35 #4
I agree with BerryDelicious, I would wait to see how you feel after your 4th is born. When I was pregnant with my 4th I felt 1000% done, she was my last so had my tubes tied. I immediately regretted having that done so 3 years later I had my tubes reversed. We are currently TTCing for number 5
22-07-2015 17:10 #5
Thanks everyone, I will probably jinx myself for saying this but I've had really easy going babies and great sleepers, our boys slept through the night from 7 weeks and our daughter from birth 😳 I've probably just totally jinxed that 😜
I guess I'm worried as well that our three are very close in age, and have a bigger age gap this time, I guess I will have to see how I feel once bub is born and we are settled.
22-07-2015 18:45 #6
We have 4 boys. My heart often says it would love another. My head says Hell no! Makes me wonder how many kids it would take before I felt 'done'
22-07-2015 18:56 #7Senior Member
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I have 4, currently pregnant with number 5. My children's ages when Bub is born will be 13, 10, almost 8 and 5. I have copped a fair amount of negativity and judgement, with comments like " oh but your youngest is just starting school, you are just about to get your life back', and ' how will you afford 5 kids' and my personal favourite ' what about your children's lifestyle, everything will change for them'
I've never felt that I was finished having babies, my theory was always ' I'll never regret having a baby, I may regret not having one'.
That said, I'm now quite sure our family will be complete.
It's a decision that only you can make.
22-07-2015 19:34 #8Senior Member
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I'm the eldest if 11 (that's right 11!) kids, and I feel pretty much done with just my DS!
Sometimes I think maybe one more, but for right now, these no more babies for my little family haha.
I'd just wait to see how you feel after bubs is born
23-07-2015 06:23 #9
Thanks everyone, Mumzy1976 I like your theory!
Wow 11 kids!
23-07-2015 09:09 #10
I've just had baby number 4. Mine are 10 yrs, 3 yrs, 2 yrs and newborn. Dh and I always said we wanted 5 kids, but to be honest, while I THINK I would live another baby, I just don't think I could do it again. It's hard ATM with ds3 only being 7 weeks, but I just dont think I'd have the energy for another any time soon, not to mention pregnancy was really hard this last time around. Also until I started working again, there's no way we could afford it.
I think you need to wait until after number 4, and see how you feel about it then.
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