Hello! Thank you for thinking of me! Bubba is absolutely amazing, i cannot stop staring at him all day! He is perfect. Sleeps for 7 hours overnight..im in newborn heaven atm!
As for an update..FOB is 'staying' here, i wouldnt say living yet. He is making a huge effort abd absolutely adores his son. I think the birth, especially since it was an emergency situation and we almost lost bub, really woke him up. However only time will tell what happens down the track. For now i am starting to feel like i do deserve better, and doing this on my own isnt as daunting as i felt it was before he was born. Therefore he has alot of work to do before he is accepted back into a relationship situation. For now we focus on the baby and get through day by day. We are also slowly getting to know eachother again.
As for the wh*rebag, as far as i know she is out of the picture but who would know. I dont think she is as she freaked out when the birth got close. She actually text me and told me she just liked the attention and never wanted him. *****!
I couldnt give a hoot about anything but my son though, its very empowering. I have everything i need in him.
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17-08-2015 08:25 #181
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17-08-2015 12:43 #182
That's great to hear, @heplusme!
For what it's worth, I would compromise on the first name and tell him that bub will be having your last name and IF you two ever get married you can change bub's name then. His reaction to that decision would tell you a lot but I think it's a solid plan given the future between you two is very uncertain.
17-08-2015 12:44 #183
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Also, I totally think a Bub Hub username change is in order!
ETA: I suppose the "he" could be DS now, though.
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17-08-2015 13:48 #184
was just going to say the same, it can refer to the new little man in OP's life
28-09-2015 06:29 #185
Hi everyone. I thought it was about time for a proper update!
My son was born at 1155 04/08/15 via emergency c section. He went into distress after 24 hours of labor so it was all systems go and he was out within 15 mins! He was 4.018kg, 37cm head and 53cm long, they said due to his size i wouldnt have made it through natural birth anyway.
I ended up calling FOB to the hospital at the 11th hour (literally at 11pm) as i felt i needed him there. Since bub has been born he has been incredible with me and the baby, trying to do everything he can to make it up to me. I on the other hand have started to resent him and think more often then not we should split. I dont want to play stepford family forever, i want someone who truely loves me. We dont say we love eachother anymore and its just 'taking a day at a time'. He knows that i probably wont forgive him. For now he has been an incredible father and loves his son so much, so i really cant ask for more.
Oh and what did i do with the surname? I stuck to my guns and made him agree to giving him my name only. Then after seeing how in love he was with bub, his huge smiles whenever he sees him, i secretly changed it to hyphenated before posting the paperwork. He doesnt know yet, and will just see it on the BC. He may have been a **** to me but he loves his son and his son has the right to have a piece of his father. I feel like i did the right thing.
I am so in love with my boy. He is so beautiful and absolutely lights up my life. No matter what happens i know i have him and thats all i need.
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28-09-2015 06:46 #186
28-09-2015 06:48 #187
What a cutie!!! Congrats! Glad things are ok for you xx
28-09-2015 06:49 #188
Tears here. How beautiful and how mature of you (wrong word sorry if that sounds patronising). You'll rock the single mum thing if you make rust choice.
That's the beauty of this all. You have choice. And yes. You deserve to be loved and adored.
28-09-2015 07:14 #189
28-09-2015 08:05 #190
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He's a lovely little man!! I think you're incredible in the way you have handled yourself through such a difficult time. He's a lucky boy to have you as his mum.
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