I'm so sorry you're going through this. It does sound like he's suffering depression or something like that and doesn't know how to deal with it. However, he's also not accepting that his behaviour needs to change and he may need help.
I think that getting out, even just for a short period of time, is the only thing you can do. Poor you and poor little DS
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19-07-2015 07:39 #31Senior Member
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19-07-2015 07:47 #32
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Feels like a crappy situation to be in and I don't think this excuses his behaviour but it sounds like he needs to speak to a GP and get a referral for a psychologist. It also sounds like you may have suggested this and men being men has rejected the idea. If he is unwilling to help himself then there is not much you can do for him. Sorry OP
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19-07-2015 07:50 #33
If he has moved on to drinking alone then I think it's gone past you talking it over. You need to tell him. Its either your family and he gets help or your out. It has to be that simple or he wont get the hint.
19-07-2015 07:59 #34
Even if it means actually moving out if he says he won't seek help, you can always move back if he gets the hint and starts making great strides to sort himself out.
Did you tell him how you feel like shut when he talks to you like that? Did he apologise at least?
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19-07-2015 09:12 #35
He's stressed about finances yet he has had opportunities to take FT work and hasn't done so. He seems quite unstable OP, I would be packing up a few bags for you and bub and getting the hell of there. To be fair there may be issues of depression there, but if he refuses to seek any kind of help nothing is going to change.
19-07-2015 09:23 #36
sorry to be blunt, but it sounds like a bunch of excuses to me. if it's depression, then he needs outside help and his refusal to get it just says to me he's quite comfortable to continue behaving like a man-child while you run around doing everything.
his mum should also tell him to pull his socks up and start behaving like a man and taking care of his family.
if it was me, I'd be seriously planning to leave.
19-07-2015 09:55 #37Junior Member
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I spoke to him this morning gave him contacts for depression and men dealing with depression he laughed in my face. He actually said he feels great this morning because he's had the best sleep ever due to the 6 pack he drank last night. What a c***.
I calmy and respectfully told him how I felt and what I would like our next steps to be if he is interested in staying with us. He doesn't like what I've asked of him and would obviously rather us leave than him to step into a role where he is a part of the family. I think it's time for us to go. I am so angry at him for being such a disrespectful man. He is extremely selfish (of which I have always known) and I won't accept his abuse any longer. Thank you to everyone who has replied I really appreciate every single reply.
19-07-2015 10:02 #38
Resentful of DP
all the best with your next steps. be brave and remember, bub hub girls are always here for support xx
19-07-2015 10:15 #39
I'm so sorry he was being a d!ck about it. I think you truly know where he sits right now on matters. I'd be leaving and letting him know you plan to do so.
If he still doesn't figure out how serious you are, you're better off without him.
19-07-2015 10:20 #40
Good luck. Hopefully your moving out kicks his nasty ar$e into gear and makes him realise what a tool he has been. If it doesnt, in the long run you and your DS will have a much happier life without his constant negativity.
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