I'm also one for saying 'gentle hands' and 'gentle pats'. My DD is excellent at being gentle. She's a fair bit older though. I think at 11 months your best bet is to ignore and/or distract (depending on the behaviour).
As for sleeping in your bed. If you don't want him in there, don't bring him in. There's nothing wrong with co-sleeping, as long as it's working for everyone involved. It may take a couple of weeks, but you'll be grateful in the long run. I would be gradually reducing your input on his sleep. Maybe cuddle at first, then keep him in his cot and pat him, then slowly withdraw from the room. This would take place over a few weeks I guess. You just need to be firm and consistent with whatever you decide to do.
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17-07-2015 15:57 #11Senior Member
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17-07-2015 16:27 #12
My first was a hitter at the same age, he would smack you full in the face if he didn't get his own way even at 12months. My husband ignored it or distracted him (rather unsuccessfully) but he would often hit again. I got jack of it and started yelling "ow" holding his hand away firmly and saying "no" in a very stern voice. It worked within a matter of days. We then found he would continue hitting my husband until he was about 2yrs old. He definitely figured out that dad tolerated his outbursts more than me and as a result he was very well behaved for me, but an emotional nightmare around his father...
17-07-2015 18:23 #13Senior Member
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He might just have separation anxiety, if you have to leave room without him call out to him tell him where you are going. Distract him when you can. It's a pain but it will pass and he just needs his mum a little more at the moment.
My youngest, 10 months is a nightmare sleeper (my worst yet) but what worked for my other kids was co sleeping. Otherwise.. Sleep school? That's just about where we're headed with my youngest..
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19-07-2015 08:57 #18
In that situation I wouldn't say anything tbh. Just lead with the distraction. Spitting is actually a great skill. My ds can't do it so he can't use toothpaste yet!
19-07-2015 09:44 #19
For spitting, I gave my daughter a place where she could do it (over the edge of the bath). If she started spitting, I'd say "you can spit over the bath" and take her there. She'd spit briefly and get bored. If that wasn't possible; distraction.
19-07-2015 16:11 #20Senior Member
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Sorry for the late reply ladies.
I don't call my DS 'naughty' to his face, I used it here, I guess because I was over exhausted and in a very bad/overwhelmed mood. I struggle with severe depression and just needed to vent and grab a few tips if I could.
Normally when he hits, I just hold his hands away and say 'ow that hurts mummy' and if he still does it I move him away.
The spitting I don't like, but I know I can't stop, he is bf and can't even take a cup or bottle because he spits it everywhere.
I wasn't wanting to completely disciplin DS, I just wanted some ways I could stop the 'bad' behaviour before it became a habit. Sorry if I offended anyone.
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