I would like to homeschool when my kids start highschool (so in three years time with my eldest). I want to have a relaxed curriculum from year 7 to year 9 and then try unschooling from then on..
I have been doing research, watching youtube videos. Learning about different curriculum styles. Researching the pros and cons.
This is something that I'm very passionate about.
I have spoken to my eldest and she's keen too, though I know there's another three years to go and she ( or I, though that's unlikely) could change her mind .
If she or my other kids are happy to go to highschool then I will support that.
My only dilemma is my dp. He doesn't agree on it.
This is what he's worried about:
Socialisation.. I told him there are other ways and other places to meet friends such as sport, extra studies, homeschool group meet ups, church kids/youth clubs, summer camps etc...
He's worried they won't get into tafe/ uni. I reminded him he got into tafe even though he didn't complete year 10 and there's plenty of tafe courses and jobs you can do that don't require school. They will be homeschooled with a curriculum though. There are online courses, volunteer work, pathway courses, apprenticeships etc..
He's worried I won't be able to cope.
I told him eldest daughter will only be home to begin with ( plus our youngest who will be 4 at the stsrt but if worse comes to worse we can have him go to fdc one day a week or something). I have 4 kids, they won't all be home at once.
He's worried they (and I) will be stuck at home all day. I explained there are different ways to study and different curriculums and you don't need to stay homd and study at the kitchen table!
He says " you have to be smart to homeschool" I'm certainly not dumb, but if there are areas/things I don't know/understand myself I can get help I'm sure. I want my kids ( at least in the later years of highschool) to have a more self directed curriculum.
I am three years to convince him, although I've pretty much made up my mind. He's entitled to his opinion of course but what annoys me he won't do any research etc and won't really hear me out.
In my head I am thinking "I'm just going to homeschool anyway." He isn't the one that will be "teaching" he will be at work.
So any advice, suggestions, etc are very welcome...
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17-07-2015 10:44 #1
I want to start homeschooling when kids are in highschool
17-07-2015 10:54 #2
my thoughts, I tend to agree with your dp, but I have done no research, and so I don't have any real problem with the idea. the way I see it, you will be doing the work, you will be responsible for the teaching, the decision is up to you and your children when the time comes. Good luck, marie.
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17-07-2015 11:06 #3
You should look up homeschooling groups in your area as they will be able to give you the best advice and you might be able to attend their meetups to see how it works.
I know a group in Northern Melb (not very active) and one in North eastern/Eastern Melb that is very active. But there might be other groups where you are.
17-07-2015 11:10 #4
why do you want to homeschool for high school?
17-07-2015 11:16 #5
Thanks for that. I've looked up some homeschooling groups for the Eastern suburbs, though haven't attended any.
I think it will be enriching. I don't agree on the current high school curriculum. Having teens/kids sit in a class learning ( or being taught) things they aren't interested in. Learning things they don't need like French ( if my kids wanted to go to France and learn the language they can do that in their own time). Bullies, hanging out with the wrong crowds, wagging (they can't skip school if they don't go lol). There's lots of reasons.
Also having quality time with teens. My dad and step mum didn't give me and my sister the best life.
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17-07-2015 11:18 #6
I'm with your DP sorry.... What are your reasons for home schooling? I remember high school as being a rather horrible brutal place and I would love to protect my girls from that. But I want them to learn resilience, and I also don't want to limit their options. What if your kids want to be a doctor? It's doubtful they will be able to get into university. Tafe maybe, but that does limit them and I wouldn't want to do that. I will always push my kids to finish high school as its so hard to go back and finish. I don't care if they want to be a plumber, hair dresser or scientist. Just finish high school.
I do know people who home school and they do a great job. But as the kids got older at about year nine they started attending a different sort of school a few times a week. In those days they were given all the work to do at home. If you suggested this to DH he might be more ok with it. If you want more details I can find out for you, I just can't remember what my friend calls the school.
17-07-2015 11:21 #7
Honestly this is not something you can just decide and do because you are the one home during the day.
It's important that you both agree or it will tear you apart. There is no way on earth I would allow my partner to disregard and disrespect me and my role as parent in such a huge way.
If your truly serious you need to be a united front. Homeschooling and unschooled are not the easy. In fact it makes your children's choice and career paths much harder. Not impossible but certainly a seriously harder. You need your partner support if you plan to stay together and even after it would have to be agreed apon as part of a parenting agreement.
Why are looking at going down that path?
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17-07-2015 11:28 #8Senior Member
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I also like the idea of homeschooling and think that it allows you to much better tailor a curriculum to suit your kid's needs. I read somewhere that homeschooled kids often do better academically and tend to go to uni earlier, but I imagine this is largely dependent on the capability of the teacher (you!). Are you thinking of getting tutors for some of the more advanced subjects that the kids might be interested in?
Maybe if you give your husband some ideas around the structure you plan to use and the types of things you plan to teach the kids, he might be more open. Having said that, I do think is is part of his role to be an equal decision maker in their schooling. I think it is his responsibility to be involved in a major decision like that. Of course, I am no expert in the dynamics of your family, but I know that if my husband just wanted to make a unilateral decision on our kids' education, (even if he was planning to do all the work himself), I wouldn't think that was reasonable....
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17-07-2015 11:29 #9
Ok thanks everyone..
I'm still going ahead with it. I know it won't be easy. That doesn't bother me. I'll get help if needed. I have said to him we can trial it out and then if things don't work we can look into school.
Since this is the "homeschool" section are there any people that agree with me?
17-07-2015 11:31 #10
I wouldn't do it if my husband wasn't on board (that would be hugely disrespectful and cruel. If he did it to me over something, I would leave, and I would expect the same from him if I was to do it).I am all for home schooling but unschooling for high school doesn't make sense to me- but I guess it would depend on the child.My concern would be that my child would want a specific career, and it would require a long uni degree and they wouldn't get in without certain things.I have no concerns regarding my ability to teach them the curriculum, but that's homeschooling and not unschooling.H is keen on homeschooling, I am not. So he has agreed it shouldn't happen, unless we have a child that doesn't cope with main****** schooling.ETA:You don't sound very clear on what you wish to do- homeschool or unschool? They are very different.
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