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    Thanks everyone! That really helps. I have had a bit of a deep and meaningful to DP and I think he is going to get more on board too. This will help a lot. I just wanted to be sure I was expecting too much from them but it sounds like I'm not.

    I don't want to be a Sargent major but at the same time, my toddler helps pack away so there cant be 2 sets of rules in the house.

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    My school aged children are 10 (11 in October), 8 and 5 ( 6 in a few weeks).

    They make their own lunch for school and sometimes on weekends/ holidays. If it's a cooked lunch I supervise.

    They make their own breakfast

    They make their own beds and clean their rooms.

    They clean up after themselves.

    They put their dirty clothes in the laundry. Sometimes they help hang the washing out too.

    They put their clean clothes away.

    They sometimes vacuum their rooms and sometimes the lounge ( we have a small house anyway)

    They sometimes help with dinner (grating veggies, food prep, some cooking)

    They take turns to set the table
    They take turns to wipe the table

    They sometimes take out the rubbish

    And I do expect this. Not every day with all of that, but they're old enough to pull their weight, same will happen when the youngest (he's only 15 months) his old enough too.

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    I am subbing to read later, it's a never ending battle with my 8 and 5yo, they won't do anything without a stand up argument and I'm sick of it!

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    I don't expect anything from DS as he's only 5.

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    I have the same issues but I'm sympathetic to how overwhelming it can be for a tween to clean their room. I recall hating cleaning my room and it was an overwhelming job which I personally never did properly as a child. So I get into it myself, sometimes with them giving specific areas to sort and arrange so it's broken into little jobs, and when I'm throwing stuff out I do it without them there. (Never precious items but obvious decluttering and clothing that needs to move on). When their rooms get bad I help sort, throw out and declutter and organise. The key I find is to keep onto them daily to clear the room of laundry and put things away everyday so it never gets real bad. But it's something that we have to keep on top of with reminders. I will ask if they have made their bed before they want to go on iPad. Everyone helps in the household at sometime in the week eg the big kids 13, 11 and 9 take washing baskets to the laundry, unpack dishwasher, bring clothes off the line, bring firewood inside, feed chooks, lock chooks up for the night, vacuum car, fold clean washing and more whenever i need a helping hand I call on them. I mean I'm not sitting on the sofa barking orders..haha, but I feel it's part of bringing up responsible people. I do pay them quite well when I'm desperate for help too. (We have a 2 yr old and a baby too).

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    My 1 year old packs away her toys each night and puts her washing in the laundry.
    Your expectations are not to high

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    Ds from a young age was expected to put his plate up for washing, put his dirty clothes into the laundry basket, make his bed. Now he does all the above, tidies his room, he does the lawn mowing, he's nearly 14 and does a good job. He comes out to the car and helps me in with the shopping and other odd jobs as he's asked to do.

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    DS1 is 5 and I expect him to empty his bag and hang it up when he gets home from school. Notes on the desk, lunchbox and drink on the bench to be cleaned and filled for the next day, and shoes on the shelf.

    Dirty clothes he puts in the washing basket.

    He makes his bed when I ask. When we had a chores list it was every day.

    Cleaning up his toys he is good at helping with. We usually do it together.

    Plus he will take out the rubbish to the bin and asks to help vacuum.

    DS2 is younger but at 2.5 he knows to put his clothes in the basket, pack up his toys and he will often help me empty the dishwasher and help his brother carry rubbish to the bin.


 

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