I really don't understand what sort of answer you were looking for.
The Internet is a great place for support and a great place to see if you are being reasonable or not.
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08-07-2015 17:16 #21
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08-07-2015 17:17 #22
I'm going to be serious - you are just so honest - we use the word "troll" online when it could be someone who is just making up a story to cause conflict.
It is only because you are just so honest! Seriously, if you love someone set them free. Set your son and his family free and give them space. It is their family now. They will return! They will need their own time figuring out their baby in their life. They will ask for help if they need it.
I'm hoping it does work out for you.
08-07-2015 17:18 #23
08-07-2015 17:23 #24Senior Member
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So you live in a different state.... they bought a house specifically with a suite for you.... and you're complaining??? Really?
08-07-2015 17:28 #25Senior Member
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How do you feel if you put yourself in her shoes? She's met the love of her life, married him, is expecting her first baby, agreed to or made sure there was enough space in the house so you can visit and stay without infringing on their privacy, and yet you assert yourself to her when she's a newlywed and now again when she's expecting. Your son is 40, not 4. Yes you have raised him but you need to understand the ever changing dynamic - he's not your child anymore, he's a grown man with his own family. Just try to see it from another perspective.
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08-07-2015 17:31 #26
Maybe not a troll, this is what my mother expects of my sister in laws and she expected a lot more with me being her daughter. Needless to say she is a part of my sons life but not in the capacity she expects or demands.
OP I think you need to back off a lot with this baby, by all means visit but maybe till they are settled stay in a hotel so they can breathe and get a handle on living with a new born. The more advice you give without being asked will drive any new mother up the wall when they are stressed enough as it is. This is how a family grows and while you are still a part of it, your a grown adult so you don't need constant care at the moment. They will now be a family of three and you need to accept that you are still your sons mother but you are not part of his inner family. That's sounds harsh, I hope you understand what I mean.
08-07-2015 17:40 #27
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08-07-2015 17:43 #28
Yeah I feel a bit sorry for the OP.
But if you can't get with their way of doing things then you will be cut out.
It's mutual respect.
Your feelings on the matter don't trump theirs.
Meet half way.
Contact them with a fresh approach.
ASK what they would like of you int he next few months and when the baby is due and LISTEN to what is being said.
If they can trust you won't run away with yourself and overstay a welcome, then I'm sure they would LOVE to have you in their child's life.
08-07-2015 17:48 #29
08-07-2015 18:04 #30
I wouldnt want this sort of pressure on my shoulders now or after my newborn arrives in two weeks. Im sure you wouldnt have wanted it either when you had your children.
Good luck OP.
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