Help me decide on a punishment

[BerryDelicious]

5yo DD just slapped me across the face!!! Big shock. She's never done that before. I don't smack her EVER.

It was all over spilt (dry) cereal. She spilt a little cup of dried cereal and was just standing there screaming at it.

I walked into the room and said 'dont stand there screaming (at the mess) pick it up'

I knelt down and started to help her scoop the cereal up and she slaps me across the face!!!

Such a shock I just put her in her room and closed the door.

She's still in there (15 minutes later) I'm so angry I don't want to let her out (she's quite now and has stopped crying).

I've decided to take her ipad off her as punishment but don't know how long is appropriate for a 5yo with ASD1, ODD & ADD.

One day? Two days? One week? Thoughts?

[Wise Enough]

5yo DD just slapped me across the face!!! Big shock. She's never done that before. I don't smack her EVER.

It was all over spilt (dry) cereal. She spilt a little cup of dried cereal and was just standing there screaming at it.

I walked into the room and said 'dont stand there screaming (at the mess) pick it up'

I knelt down and started to help her scoop the cereal up and she slaps me across the face!!!

Such a shock I just put her in her room and closed the door.

She's still in there (15 minutes later) I'm so angry I don't want to let her out (she's quite now and has stopped crying).

I've decided to take her ipad off her as punishment but don't know how long is appropriate for a 5yo with ASD1, ODD & ADD.

One day? Two days? One week? Thoughts?

Given the ASD etc I would say a day. You don't want to make your life harder either . One day of tantrums. Then if she does it again it's two days.

[BerryDelicious]

She's already asked me for it 6 times and is crying because 'I have all of these needs and there's nothing fun to do'.. maybe this wasn't such a good idea..

[DarcyJ]

Can you give her ideas of fun things to do that don't involve the ipad? Go for a walk to the park? Watch a movie? Board game?

[heplusme]

"I have all of these needs..." 😅😅😅 so funny

[Wise Enough]

That's why I said a day!

[Callian]

I would take it off her for a few hours. Give her a time when she can get it back. Show her on the number on the clock and say that's when you will get it. She will keep asking for it, just keep showing her the number on the clock. Keep your explanation short because you hit mummy you cannot have your iPad till whatever time you choose. Yes, you will have to repeat this many, many times but don't give in. I would not take it off her for the whole day as it will be too hard on you. This way you will still have control of the situation. Both my boys are ASD and I deal with these issues regularly. I am by no means an expert but I find this works for me and keeps my sanity.

[Mamasupial]

Not sure on what I would decided but I would definitely set up consequences for future misbehaviours now so she is aware and can make a choice about her behaviour knowing what the consequence will be.

[Nemmi1987]

my ds is 5 and regularly lashes out hitting me etc or screaming, I confiscate it in blocks, any longer and he doesnt seem to get it iykwim,

so I'll say strike 1 youre banned til morning tea, strike 2 til lunch, 3 til afternoon tea and if we reach four he doesnt get it this day.