+ Reply to Thread
Results 1 to 10 of 10
  1. #1
    Join Date
    Jan 2012
    Location
    Melbourne
    Posts
    4,904
    Thanks
    1,742
    Thanked
    3,034
    Reviews
    10
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week

    Default 2yo only wants daddy

    I'm so upset I'm crying over it right now. Stupid mummy feelings.

    I had a terrible night with the newborn so this morning DH gets up to tend to DS.
    Since newborn stays unsettled all morning, I hear and get glimpses of what's going on in the living room.

    DS has been stuck on the IPad for 45min, not impressed so I call him in so we can read stories.
    There I realised he has a dirty nappy and I overheard DH telling DS he needed to change his nappy over an hour ago.
    Again not impressed with DH parenting skills. Leaving your kid in a dirty nappy and alone with the iPad for one hour?!
    Since newborn doesn't sleep anyway, and I'm now upset for DS in top of overly tired I decide to get up and take DS somewhere.

    To all my suggestions (park, zoo, library, ...) he says "no with mummy. Go with daddy" 😐
    Then DH proceeds to yell at DS for something trivial cue huge breakdown for DS and again he doesn't want any cuddles from me, but crying for DH.

    I feel so rejected and useless for both my kids.

    No point to this thread just a vent I guess.

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Oct 2012
    Location
    QLD
    Posts
    2,251
    Thanks
    449
    Thanked
    1,535
    Reviews
    3
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Awards:
    300 posts in a week - week ended 11/9/14200 Posts in a weekBusiest Member of the Week - week ended 11/9/14100 Posts in a week
    I couldn't go past this thread and not say anything.

    Firstly, DH needs to get it together and change a nappy the MOMENT it needs changing. How would DH like to walk around with soiled underwear for an hour? That's completely lazy and unacceptable.

    Secondly, I know it's hard not to not take it to heart but children have motives we can't understand. One day DP and I went to pick DD (1yo) up from daycare after DP had dropped her off that morning. DD only wanted DP and screamed for her when I held her. I went home and cried. I was devastated. The next day I dropped her off and she only wanted me. That's when we realised that she thought the person who was dropping her off was mad/ upset with her and she was trying to get cuddles because she thought they didn't want her! DD goes through stages of who she wants.

    It's quite possible DS is interested in DH only because he thinks he can play the iPad more, doesn't see DH as often because of work maybe or is in a 'daddy' mood.

    It hurts bad. I know. But then I need to tell myself it's not a competition between me and DP and I need to celebrate their love too as something special and unique.

    I'm so sorry you're feeling like this today OP. A trip to the park with your littlies is probably exactly what you need.

  3. The Following User Says Thank You to Best Things For This Useful Post:

    ExcuseMyFrench  (01-07-2015)

  4. #3
    harvs's Avatar
    harvs is offline Winner 2014 - Spirit of BubHub Award
    Winner 2016 - Member you'd most like to meet
    Join Date
    Jun 2012
    Posts
    10,218
    Thanks
    6,503
    Thanked
    16,595
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 9/4/15Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 2/4/15Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 19/3/15Busiest Member of the Week200 Posts in a week
    Big hugs EMF. I know how you feel. It's not personal.

    I hope your day picks up x

  5. The Following User Says Thank You to harvs For This Useful Post:

    ExcuseMyFrench  (01-07-2015)

  6. #4
    Join Date
    Dec 2011
    Posts
    6,827
    Thanks
    3,837
    Thanked
    3,893
    Reviews
    17
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 14/11/14100 Posts in a week
    Yep. Same here with 10yo dd1. Dd2 (3yo) won't leave me alone and dd1 won't have anything to do with me unless I'm buying something for her and even then I didn't buy her enough or do enough for her etc..

  7. The Following User Says Thank You to DesperatelySeekingSleep For This Useful Post:

    ExcuseMyFrench  (01-07-2015)

  8. #5
    Join Date
    Nov 2012
    Posts
    795
    Thanks
    3,030
    Thanked
    695
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts


    DS1 did the same thing when DS1 was born.

  9. The Following User Says Thank You to snowqu33n For This Useful Post:

    ExcuseMyFrench  (01-07-2015)

  10. #6
    Join Date
    Nov 2011
    Posts
    1,393
    Thanks
    815
    Thanked
    688
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    If I left my DS with my husband and I found out he'd spent an hour sitting in a dirty nappy playing on the iPad I'd be having a very strongly worded discussion with my husband. That is awful, why on Earth would he have just not changed your son's nappy? If it's a smelly one they're a bit hard to forget about, although I guess it's possible since he wasn't actually interacting with his child

    Anyway I wouldn't worry too much about the dad preference. They change their mind all the time about who the favourite is and it can be for trivial reasons (he probably likes dad better because dad just lets him have the ipad).

    Definitely try to get out of the house with the kids if you're feeling crappy, fresh air really does help and I'm sure once you're out having fun your DS won't mind that he's with you instead of Daddy. Although, maybe Daddy needs to get out too? Why not all go out as a family?

  11. The Following User Says Thank You to DarcyJ For This Useful Post:

    ExcuseMyFrench  (01-07-2015)

  12. #7
    almai's Avatar
    almai is offline "you never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have."
    Join Date
    Jan 2012
    Location
    perth
    Posts
    1,772
    Thanks
    2,044
    Thanked
    1,190
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Big hugs xx

  13. The Following User Says Thank You to almai For This Useful Post:

    ExcuseMyFrench  (01-07-2015)

  14. #8
    Join Date
    Jan 2012
    Location
    Melbourne
    Posts
    4,904
    Thanks
    1,742
    Thanked
    3,034
    Reviews
    10
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    Thank you so much for your kind words and hugs, it did make a lot of difference to my outlook on the day.

    Not long after I posted this thread, DH and DS came back from the park with DS in full tantrum this time calling after me. DH was just too happy to take over cuddling the newborn and I was too happy being called by a tantrumy toddler...

    We then managed to have a great quality time just the two of us, lots of cuddles, play at the park.
    We even managed to make two new friends while at the park when meeting our new neighbours. A mum and her toddler girl that goes to the same childcare than DS. It was lovely.

    Couldn't believe how the day could turn around for the best so quickly

  15. The Following User Says Thank You to ExcuseMyFrench For This Useful Post:

    BerryDelicious  (02-07-2015)

  16. #9
    Join Date
    May 2015
    Posts
    206
    Thanks
    125
    Thanked
    82
    Reviews
    0
    I'm so glad it's all turned around. Xx


 

Similar Threads

  1. I'm a daddy and I know it!
    By bpac in forum Games & fun stuff
    Replies: 0
    Last Post: 03-03-2015, 19:15
  2. New baby daddy guilt?
    By ourbradybunch in forum Step-parents / Blended families
    Replies: 84
    Last Post: 15-02-2015, 09:47
  3. Daddy envy?
    By HearMeRoar in forum Single Parents
    Replies: 8
    Last Post: 04-08-2014, 15:16

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
FEATURED SUPPORTER
Baby Car Seats and Infant Car RestraintsBuying a baby car seat? Check out our 'go-to' links here!
REVIEWS
"Made bed time less anxious"
by Meld85
My Little Heart Whisbear - the Humming Bear reviews ›
"Wonderful natural Aussie made product!"
by Mrstwr
Baby U Goat Milk Moisturiser reviews ›
"Replaced good quality with cheap tight nappies"
by Kris
Coles Comfy Bots Nappies reviews ›