Of course he should have a say, he is their father and you seem like you are still together.
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16-06-2015 10:39 #51
16-06-2015 10:40 #52
We named our first a name that I didn't like. Our story is different though. I agreed to it as it was his mother's name who died the 2 weeks before we got pregnant. I hated the name but I loved that he wanted to honour his mum like that. The name grew on me and I couldn't see her as anything else. She loves her name. Her name was a joint choice.
I would never disrespect my relationship or the man I loved by being cruel as naming his child a name he hated. Just as he wouldn't insist on a name I hated.
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16-06-2015 11:10 #53
No, choosing a name your husband hates is a selfish act in my opinion. I believe naming a child is a joint decision.
16-06-2015 11:43 #54
No I think that's very unfair to your husband. Imagine if he insisted on calling the child a name you hate, how would you feel? It's a joint decision not all about you.
I had a girls name I absolutely loved ever since my first was born, but it was a boy. Now I'm pregnant with a girl and told DH how much I loved it, but he disliked so we aren't using it, and I'm fine with that as I want us both to love the name.
16-06-2015 11:44 #55
No, I would find one we both like and ask to use it as the middle name.
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16-06-2015 12:05 #56
I couldn't use a name that DH didn't like but I loved. I'd be really angry & upset if I found out he named the baby a name I didn't like without caring about my thoughts. I think a decision on what to name baby should be made together & both people need to be happy with it.
I've had a few names that I absolutely have loved that he doesn't like so I won't use them for baby & have had to find other names.
Picking names can be really hard & I hope you both find one that you both love. I'm also wondering if the name you picked might grow on him? I haven't read previous replies so don't know how far along you are but I know there's been names I've heard & thought I don't really like that. I've heard them a month or two later & they had really grown on me. He might end up liking it just as much as you before baby is here. Good luck
16-06-2015 12:22 #57
I would never! I wouldn't even consider it. I had plenty of names I loved but DP didn't and vice versa.
Your husbands gender doesn't invalidate his right to be involved in choosing a name for a child you BOTH conceived.
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16-06-2015 12:41 #58
I wouldn't choose a name my DP hated, however I would tell him to choose some himself so we can discuss and if he didn't I would not be a happy camper. We're lucky in that we have picked out a girl's name we both adore and we won't even be TTC for another 2 years. Because we've had that name picked for quite some time I can't imagine calling our possible future daughter any other name. Boys names are a huge struggle for us, though.
I would tell him to sit down and make a list of the names he likes and if he won't do that than to consider the name you have picked out because it's not fair for that burden to be laid only on you.
As for the "I don't like it" reason, it may be frustrating, but it's valid. Sometimes we don't have a reason for not liking a name. We just don't. And that's fine.
Good luck xxx
16-06-2015 13:43 #59
Can I ask how you would even name your child something your partner hated? You both need to sign the birth certificate.
16-06-2015 15:15 #60
Can you imagine this from his point of view? I really love Oliver as a name, but I would never 'force' that name upon my child or husband. Parenting is a partnership, and I would be so devastated if my child was given a name that we didn't agree on. The name is who they are, he may end up resenting you or the child, and the child will have that name for the rest of their life.
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