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    I would be seeing someone asap to help deal with your anxiety Before you make any decisions.

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    I know this is a very sensitive subject and I do not wish to offend anyone but I need some help

    I have just found out we are preg with twins. I nearly passed out with the news as I was not expecting this. I'm concerned as I already have yo beautiful boys 6 and 3 and we always wanted a 3rd but a 4th I'm feeling could be way to much financial, family etc. so many thoughts are running through my head. Help...

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    Hi, I am in the same situation. I'm pregnant naturally with twins and after having a difficult first pregnancy which resulted in a premmie with a heart condition and suffering PND the thought of twins is stressing me out. Would love some advice on who in Australia does the procedure

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    Big hugs, nothing really prepares you for that moment they tell you you have two on board, huh?!

    Twins can be hard (as can single babies!) but not as hard as you are imagining. You do have to do some things a bit differently but you will surprise yourself with how well you adapt and cope (and even enjoy it).

    You also have double the love, double the cuddles, double the joy as they get older and start to make each other giggle for hours. And while there is an increased chance of complications, the truth is the majority of twin pregnancies go smoothly - I had to be induced at 38+2 after a dream pregnancy with my twin boys (who are now 6 months old). Have they told any of you what type of twins you are having (do they have the same placenta and/or same sac or their own individual ones?).

    Please feel free to PM me if you'd like to chat - I'm happy to share my honest experiences of twin pregnancy etc if that will help with your decision making.

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    Lemh - did you find anyone to do this procedure? I'm also needing info.

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    This is such a hard topic to be responding to right now but I hope my response will help others who are in a similar situation. This is the first time I'm putting my thoughts and story in writing so sorry if it's long winded. It was the hardest decision I have ever made in my life and I still get very emotional thinking about it.

    When I discussed my feelings with my dr she was really understanding, empathetic and referred me to Prof Mark Umstad, Obstetrician in Melbourne who specialises in multiple pregnancies. He was really fantastic and discussed medical implications of carrying twins. I had pre-eclampsiia and IUGR in my first pregnancy. With my history and my age (I'm an older mum), it was almost certain this would happen earlier and be more severe with twins. I would get very sick endangering my life and the health of my unborn foetuses. We had a couple of weeks to think through our options and had counseling sessions with a counselor.

    During this period we were able to consider all options more calmly and rationally. After the initial shock wore off, with some time to think logically and discuss our options we had to finally come to a decision. My child (first) means the world to me and I did not want him to grow up without his mummy. The high risk of losing both babies and the risks for my health were the main things that helped us to make this heart wrenching decision.

    In the end, even with a single baby, I did in fact get pre-eclampsia and was induced. At 36.5 weeks I have birth to a 2.2kg tiny but healthy little girl.

    The procedure was one of the worst days of my life and still haunts me. The guilt and thoughts of "what if " still creep into my subconscious very often.

    Without going into too much detail, you need to get a referral from the obstetrician.... It is done by a highly qualified specialist at the radiology practice and there is a 10% chance of losing the other baby later in the pregnancy.

    Our baby just had her first birthday and as we celebrated I looked at her healthy smiling face and knew that as difficult as it was we made the best decision for our family. I have two healthy happy children who have a healthy mummy to adore them.

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    This is tough to reply to, everyone experiences PND differently and I can't tell you what to do but I can share my story.
    I had PND and PTSD after the birth of my son. I became pregnant with twins just after his 1st birthday. I didn't want 3 kids, I only wanted 2. I went through so many emotions during the pregnancy and I was scared of how I would cope.
    It was tough at the start, I struggled a lot. I split with my husband and became a single mum when they were 1 1/2, and that was a challenge. But my girls are the most amazing blessings and it gets easier every day. They are 3 1/2 now and having twins is just such a special experience. The pros definitely outweigh the cons for me ❤


 

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