I'm hoping some other single mums can help me here
I'm newly separated (officially for 3 1/2 months), emotionally the marriage has been over for me for a long time. My ex (if that's what I can call him now lol) and I were together for 11 years, married for 4. I finally came to realise that there was a lot of emotional abuse from him toward me but I never really acknowledged it. I feel so much more free now but he still likes to play his manipulation games with me.
I feel ready to find someone new but I'm not sure if I'm allowed to date before getting divorced. I found out I have to wait a year before I can file for divorce. What if I find someone before then? Am I breaking any laws? He didn't want me to leave and he still wears his wedding ring. I'm done though, I'm not going back. The kids and I deserve better. I'm worried about his reaction to me dating while we are still married. If I know that it is legal for me to do so then I will feel a lot more confident about it.
I'd love to hear from other mums who have been in a similar situation
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09-05-2015 23:05 #1
Separation and dating
10-05-2015 00:26 #2
Hi, first of all well done for being strong enough to leave. I left my xh about the same time. The 12 month wait sucks doesn't it! It is 100% legal for you to start dating again. Please be safe if he is going to get angry about you dating again.
On the other hand enjoy! Dating is terrifying but so much fun!
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10-05-2015 07:15 #3Senior Member
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The 12 months you are talking about is to do with divorce and marrying again. You must be legally separated 12 months before filing for divorce . Once divorced you can marry straight away
10-05-2015 07:34 #4
Fellow separated mumma here- you can date while separated and in agreeance with meerkat it is a lot of fun the longer you're alone the more freedom and self discovery you will make too! I'm 12 months in and feel like a whole new person x
Good on you for choosing your own happiness and well being - PM me anytime!
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