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    Ditch the man. Get donor sperm and get pregnant. Life if far to short to be in a dead end relationship and fertility waits for no one. I just wonder if the clinic might call your boyfriend to confirm you are no longer together?

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    Hi everyone I thought I would update: I ended up getting sighed off for egg collection and just finished my first cycle. They retrieved 5 eggs and froze 2. They had me on 450 goal f which my doc says is the max dosage. I'm trying to stay positive but am devastated by the result. I will do another cycle in July and my doc is putting me on another drug that you take day 1 that lasts 7 days.

    No news with the relationship unfortunately. We've been to a few sessions of couples counselling but my partner still doesn't want to do embryos or try naturally. He still says he wants to 'sort out our relationship first'. He was very supportive during my first cycle but it feels like it's my journey not 'ours.'

    He came with me to my specialist appt yesterday and the doc was very explicit that freezing embryos would be a much better option but this still doesn't seem to influence him.

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    Go ahead and make embryos hun with donor sperm. I wouldn't make embryos with him. You've been with him 4 years, you were honest about wanting kids before 30. You're now 30 and he's not sure. It's not like you sprung it on him. I would make the embryos with donor sperm, then in a year if he still isn't on board with it go it alone and transfer your frozen embryos.

    You will spend your life waiting for him to be ready. He's 38 FFS!! I just don't want you to pander to him and end up with no kids.

    There is A LOT to be said for not sharing kids. Every time I hear about someone's ex being horrible about custody arrangements I thank god I went it alone!

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    Also I'm sorry you didn't get a better result from your cycle. There are different cycles they can try, you might respond better next time.

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    @berrytea I'm sorry for the disappointing results Luv Actually, my FS will put women on 600-650IU, so I can tell you that's BS about 450IU being the highest dose. It might be the highest dose your FS is willing to give you.

    Anyhoo...sounds like he/she's leaning towards giving you Elonva?? You might be better to stim at a lower dose for a bit longer to get better results?? As @Wise Enough said, there's many different protocols and a few different drugs they can try to get you a better result.

    Actually, I agree with everything @Wise Enough has said I'd be getting DS and fertilising the eggs you've already got and the one's you'll get on this upcoming Cycle and freezing the embryo's for later on down the track. They'll freeze better for a start plus you want to have your bases covered in case your DP totally pulls the rug out from under your feet.

    Sounds like he's making excuses from where I'm sitting. If he's still dragging his feet even after you've gone to couples counselling and having the FS explain to him the benefit of freezing embryo's, then I think there's a very good chance he's not going to ever come to the party on this and just drag it out for as long as you're willing to put up with him.

    Don't let him f a r k you over and your chance to have kids. Get some DS and fertilise those eggs!! After all, he's only looking out for himself so why shouldn't you??

    Good Luck Luv and thanks for updating

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    I agree with Wise Enough, I would be getting donor sperm.

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    I agree with the girls too

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    Donor sperm. He will never come to the party. Don't have kids with a d i k

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    I agree with everyone else. Go donor sperm. He's never going to agree to a family and if he does it's only going to be under duress and that's no environment for your child.

    If this is 'your' journey not yours both as a couple then where does he sit with you doing donor sperm? Is he willing to raise the child or is any child a deal breaker for him?

    I imagine after 4 years you love him but you are just wasting precious time on him OP. Only you know what is right for you but I'd be ditching him by the side of the road and fulfilling your dreams. You only get one life hun.

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    Some great advice from sage Bubhub voices on here so I'm just jumping on to agree and wish you luck with donor sperm.

    At 38 the dude needs to stop pretending to be Peter Pan, he's a grown up and should get on board or get out of your way.

    Go for the donor sperm, get knocked up and worry about relationships later when you're a yummy mummy. Babies are just too too lovely and precious to miss out.

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