So I'm finding myself very attracted to my old OBGYN. He took care of me during my last pregnancy, and have since seen him from time to time as he's been helping me with some stuff on a professional matter (non dr patient). However I've been having some issues with my lady parts, and got referred back to see him a few weeks ago, and the problem hasn't resolved it's self so my GP is sending me back to see him next week.
I'm not too sure what I should do, my particular medical issue is very complicated and he is the best Dr around to deal with it. He is a lovely man, and I don't want to offend him by asking to be referred to someone else, but I am finding it very difficult to discuss my medical issues with him due to me being very attracted to him. I also have a feeling that he may be attracted to me, as he always seems very interested in my love life, and who I am dating/if I am dating etc. Should I just be honest and tell him of my feelings and that I think it's best If I see another Dr? Or just ignore it? Also are Dr's even allowed to get involved with patients or ex patients?
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30-04-2015 15:35 #1
Attracted to my Doctor
30-04-2015 15:42 #2
It would be totally normal to have these feelings but you don't want to be having B grade medical treatment because you can't discuss everything with him and you also don't want to put him in a position that could compromise his career.
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30-04-2015 16:00 #3Senior Member
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Get another doctor ASAP! It's not a road you want to go down.
30-04-2015 16:14 #4
What a confusing predicament to find yourself in
The guidelines on patient/doctor relationships are clear - it is a big no-no, and he may risk his career if he were to enter into a relationship with you. This is taken from the medicalboard.gov.au website:
" 2. Summary of these guidelines
Good medical practice relies on trust between doctors and patients and their families. It is always unethical and unprofessional for a doctor to breach this trust by entering into a sexual relationship with a patient, regardless of whether the patient has consented to the relationship. It may also be unethical and unprofessional for a doctor to enter into a sexual relationship with a former patient, an existing patient’s carer or a close relative of an existing patient, if this breaches the trust the patient placed in the doctor.
The Medical Board of Australia (the Board) will investigate a doctor who is alleged to have breached these guidelines and if the allegations are found to be substantiated, the Board will take action"
If I were in your positio I would either keep my feelings to myself, or find another Dr.
30-04-2015 16:37 #5
So if I find a different dr, I still shouldn't be honest with him about it? And I thought that seeing a former patient, was a bit of a grey area but still ok. Where as a current patient was a big no no.
30-04-2015 16:48 #6
The use of the word 'may' when referring to the guidelines about former patients does make it seem a little less clear cut, however I think that may be for circumstances where for example someone sees a dr a few times, doesn't see them again for many many years, and then reconnects with them in a social setting (eg. Runs into them randomly, not in a professional setting). I couldn't find anything definitive on it though...
30-04-2015 16:50 #7
Nope its still considered unethical
Just over an attraction? Nope i wouldnt say anything
If it was over love, perhaps id say something.
30-04-2015 16:51 #8
I would be questioning his integrity if he is asking a patient any questions beyond what is warranted by his professional need to know.
For that reason alone I would get a different doctor.
For that reason alone I would be doubting his integrity as a person as well and would try and cool my attraction.
30-04-2015 17:02 #9Senior Member
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Could the questions relating to love life be assessing risk for sexually transmitted infections? Just a thought
30-04-2015 17:18 #10
I don't mean to offend hun, but he sounds kind of icky and sleazy :/
He knows what the rules are, and he's crossing the line. That doesn't say much for his character, sorry.
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