Im sure i'll get over it but I'm just having one of those weeks that drag by slowly and I'm feeling alienated and lonely...
After school drop offs I walk home past all these other mothers having coffee together and I really miss having friends to do this with. So far this year I haven't really gelled with any of the other mothers in my kids classes and every attempt I've made at making friends seems to be rebuffed and rejected. I know everyone has busy lives... but I'm just feeling alone and wish I had a friend to have coffee with. I haven't spoken to an adult in conversation in weeks..
Why is it so hard to make friends as an adult? I don't work and Ive deferred uni so I don't get many opportunities to meet people and make friends.
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29-04-2015 08:39 #1
29-04-2015 09:09 #2
I didn't want to read and run. Big huge hugs. It can be difficult when your kids become your whole life - it's amazing how much we all need that adult interaction.
Well if we were living in the same State Id have coffee with you.
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29-04-2015 09:14 #3Member
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I was feeling very similar to you recently. 4 kids, 3 in school and 1 at home. I moved to a new area and knew no one. I have recently started work and with two kids in sport I finally have adult interaction. I wouldn't say I have friends as such but I'm in a far better space then I was 6 months ago. Hang in there, something will change. Sending hugs.
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29-04-2015 09:18 #4
Big big hugs! Loneliness is such an awful feeling
I was given a good piece of advice lately that helped - I was feeling down as I'd struggled to really make any real friendships with my local mothers group, although I was friendly with them all I just didn't 'click', and so I was feeling really lonely. Then someone said to me that it can be hard to make genuine friendships with people when all that you really have in common is the fact that you've got kids a similar age. So this person suggested that I join a class for something that I enjoyed doing, as then I'd be more likely to meet people that I had something deeper in common with.
I joined a yoga class and have met a really lovely woman there who I am now friends with and we catch up for a walk or coffe usually once a week.
Is there a class or group that you might enjoy going to? Meetup is a great place to find group of like minded people and it usually doesn't cost anything (eg. Book club, photography group, walking group).
29-04-2015 13:08 #5
Oh hun I didn't want to read and run.
Big big hugs. I completely understand how you feel. I've never felt so lonely since my ds was born. I get along fairly well with the mums in my mums group but we are all so very different and most of them have gone back to work.
I don't have any advice, I just wanted you to know you aren't alone
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29-04-2015 13:17 #6
Where in Bris are yoU?
29-04-2015 15:33 #7
I'm in Paddington
29-04-2015 15:49 #8
If I lived near you I would have loved to gone for a coffee. I hope you find some adult conversation ASAP
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29-04-2015 16:30 #9
Hugs xx I feel like this sometimes too. My kids aren't in school yet (only 3 & 2) and I'm not working. We have done different activities but don't seem to be able to socialise with the other mums while there as I'm too busy running after 2 extremely active little boys.
I still have my mum friends from my first mothers group, but most of them have gone back to work so our catch ups are few and far between.
I'm not really any help, but just wanted to say you aren't alone in feeling like this x
29-04-2015 16:34 #10
if I were in Brissy I would have coffee with you
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