So, google tells me this is a developmental stage of play, but every time I arrive to pick up my 18 month old daughter from daycare and she's playing alone, it breaks my heart!
Is anyone else the same? Is it normal?
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27-04-2015 18:34 #1
Breaks my heart every time!
27-04-2015 18:47 #2
At that age kids don't usually 'play' with others, they normally do their own thing - but maybe near the other kids. I wouldn't worry too much. Does she seem happy on her own or does she want to be playing with the others?
Also after a day with other kids, she might just want some time on her own.
Are the carers trying to get her involved? Maybe speak to them about what she is like during the day.
27-04-2015 18:49 #3
I think it was only about 2 my DD started to play with others. She's 3.5 now and still often plays alone.
27-04-2015 18:54 #4
Very normal for that age. They don't really play with others until 3 ish. I still feel like that occasionally when I see my kids playing by themselves or if I see their feelings get hurt and they are 4 and 5 yrs.... xxx
27-04-2015 19:53 #5
Thanks for your replies
She seems totally fine doing her own thing, sometimes she looks a little lost, other times happy enough.
I think it's more me worrying about her feelings being hurt, like RipperRita said.
I might chat to the girls at daycare and ask how she is throughout the day. Wanting some alone time by the end of the day is a good point too!
27-04-2015 19:59 #6
Yes like the others said at this age children normally play in solitary play and then move onto parallel play, next to other children and it's normally because they like the same toys. By 4/5 depending on the child they start having some cooperation play with some language, turn taking and sharing. I doubt she would have hurt feelings as at this age children don't see other children as companions/friends. But I guess as a parent it would be a little sad to think she has no friends. But it's very normal....
27-04-2015 20:02 #7
My dd is normally on her own unless at end of day (her room and kindy room blend at end of day). She doesn't like young kids :/ I get there and she will be playing in the garden or with big kids
She always plays with DS too.
27-04-2015 20:11 #8
I often find my 2 year old dd by herself when I pick her up from daycare. I never thought twice about being sad for her and have always assumed that by the end of the day she is over playing with other kids and wants a bit of alone time.
As others have said children don't play with each other until 3ish and even then it can be parallel play for a while as well.
27-04-2015 20:12 #9
My daughter's 2.5 and I've never seen her playing 'with' other kids at childcare. She'll play near them, comment on what they're doing and will occasionally interact with them...mostly she does her own thing though.
Definitely normal for an 18 month old; i'd be pretty surprised if a child that age was playing with others!
27-04-2015 21:17 #10Senior Member
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my 19m old actively engages with others but he doesnt play elaborate games with them, he may briefly but will wander off quickly, he's a second child so I think thats pretty normal
most children at this age play 'along side' rather than together, they will have moments of engagement with others / children their age but they dont play 'together' in the way we imagine children playing together.
my eldest is a solo player, he mostly likes to be by himself. I was the same as a child
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