I appreciate the replies on both sides. Def some food for thought, thanks.
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19-04-2015 11:26 #21
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19-04-2015 11:36 #23
Pets shouldn't just be given away once you've had enough of them as stated by a previous poster. Personally I think looking after pets shouldn't be the responsibility of one person, pets to us are part of the family therefore we all contribute in every aspect of their care. The boys are both involved in feeding them, bathing them, cleaning up after them, playing with them. I think it's too much to expect a child to have all the responsibilities on her own as much as she may have wanted it initially. If you really don't want to care for the pets I would find them a new home in this instance and ensure you don't get anymore.
19-04-2015 11:44 #24
I just want to reiterate she isn't expected to do everything with them and they are a family thing. DH helps her clean out the cages and I often feed them fresh vegies. But she won't do even the barest of tasks with them. We don't expect her to do everything with them. Just take some initiative to feed and water them without being nagged every single day.
We don't want to give them away we are just struggling to offer them the environment the deserve atm with DD not doing the right thing.
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19-04-2015 11:48 #25
Can you put new rules in place- e.g. no tv, phone, computer, reading, etc if pet stuff isn't done.
You agree on her responsibilities regarding the pets, say that you will not remind her, and if it is not done she doesn't get screens/downtime. And don't remind her. You would have made it clear what is expected, write it down. Just enforce no XYZ as she knows why.
19-04-2015 11:52 #26
I agree that pets are the whole families responsibility, & that ultimately the responsibility often falls to the parents - however, at 11 she is old enough to put in her fair share and help out and do her bit too. I would maybe set up a jobs chart or something to break it down for her & make it manageable - eg, so she can tick off food & water each day, & cleaning out the cage on saturdays. Its too much for you to shoulder it all with a new bubba. Otherwise i would give them away or hope they dont have too long a life span... lol, Im a bit heartless like that
19-04-2015 11:53 #27
19-04-2015 11:54 #28
I don't like the idea of giving pets away, but I think it's fair in this case.
Circumstances change...and the reality is that if you're struggling to look after them properly, and your DD isn't willing to, then they deserve to have a home where they'll be well cared for.
There's no way I'd be doing the full care for guinea pigs for an 11 year old if I were struggling with it. I'd start looking into finding them a more suitable home.
19-04-2015 11:56 #29
Fair or unfair?
I think if she would rather be on the computer or reading, those things need to be the consequence. No computer or books etc until you have changed the cage and given fresh food and water. Every single day- if you push through it now, it will eventually become habit for her. Make it the first thing she does when she gets up in the morning.
Eta- just saw you have done this, nm.
19-04-2015 12:29 #30
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