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    Not gift giving is not denying a child anything. There's nothing that says a child must receive a bunch of presents on their birthday for it to be special. We personally spend all year teaching our kids about the effects waste has on the environment, to be grateful for what they have and to really consider how much they want things. If a child is having a party, they're birthday is being celebrated, they are being made to feel special...they don't need to rip open a present and play with what they got for 5 minutes to feel 'special'...or if my child did I'd be concerned. We give our kids experiences for their birthdays, and have done since they were little. They love it.
    I have no issues with not taking a gift to a party. My kids don't/didn't have a party every year, so never said no presents (but if I did whole class parties I would say no gifts), but we have had 'cake in the park with friends' for birthdays, and we are very clear it's just a playdate with birthday cake and there are to be no presents (as I literally just took the cake as that is what my kids wanted...to share their birthday cake with their friends after school).

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    Such a touchy subject with the grand parents but such a no brainer for me. I was forced to sit DS down on his 2nd birthday party and open all of his presents in front of the guests. He did not give 2 shizz's about his presents. Nor does DD who is 4. They come across as so ungrateful but we have to do the whole ceremony so the grand parents feel special and I find that so ruddy selfish!

    I only like buying gifts for people when they truly appreciate it, I think there can be a real joy in giving. However and yes this is in all caps ITS NOT ALL ABOUT ME!

    So I don't care others feel good about giving gifts, if it's my child's birthday or Christmas and I as their parents seem they shouldn't get any (or many presents) it's so disrespectful to go and over do it anyway.

    My dad tells us no gifts ever for his birthday and Father's Day and I respect that as I know he means it and wouldn't appreciate a gift. So I don't buy him one.

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    It is a tricky situation as family want to shower our DD with gifts. We have been able to slowly introduce presence over presents but it takes patience and understanding on both sides as they want to help in a way they think they can while we have to find room for their help.

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    I don't think you can ever stop grandparents from giving gifts, but if you ask friends to donate to whatever charity in lieu of a gift I think that most friends, aunties, uncles would comply.

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    Though now I'm more confused. Currently planning ds' party and I want to request no gifts. I like the wording of "gifts are not expected" but I have my doubts anyone would follow it.
    Just an update. Most people ignored my request but I'm very grateful to the handful that listened to my request and those that took the hint and kept their gift simple (ie. A favourite book). Some gifts were just not age appropriate so I've put those away for later or to donate. :P


 

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